A while ago I met a guy in the "strictly platonic" section of a board. I was upfront about my relationship& was adamant about being "just friends". He shared the same sentiment & agreed. We met for appetizers after about a week of emailing & talk daily since. We've also met for dinner a few times. He's a very fun person to talk to and hang out with & thinks the same of me. Recently, we sense a little change in direction. It seems the feelings are stronger (between the both), We feel as though we don't spend enough time together when we hang out, but we both know where we stand with each other & promised that no matter what we'll always be friends. I've invited him & his family over for a get together, so I can introduce him formally to hubby & I can meet his wife. Am I reading too much into this or am I just being paranoid? Is this relationship healthy? Do you think we can remain "strictly platonic" at the rate everything is going? Do opposite sex friendships really survive?
2006-07-26 05:03:35 · 14 answers · asked by kttrusty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
is he hott? if so, i would dump him, you dont get anything out of those relationships, its fun for a while, but in the long run, it dont work out.
2006-07-26 05:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by vampire_delux 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me? This friendship is taking another curve! If you are sensing vibes with each other and you both are married to other people then cool it with the friendship thing. In your case if you want to remain "friends" with this guy then do not continue to go out alone with him or even even e-mail him any more. You get together with him as a foursome if you are planning on honoring your marriage!. No! this relationship is not healthy if it continues on the way it is going. Forget even thinking of remaining platonic!
2006-07-26 05:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're treading on dangerous territory. You can have friends of the opposite sex, but when you feel that need for them, things have crossed over the line of friendship into a relationship.
If you love your husband, tell him about these feelings and sever all ties with the other man. If he loves his wife, he should do the same. You don't even know how quickly things can go downhill and how innocent friendships can suddenly become affairs.
Don't play with fire... you (and everyone involved) will definately get burned.
2006-07-26 05:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like something more then "just friends" is developign . If you really love your husband , & want to be with him , You might want to stop talking to this other guy if you notice your feelings for him are becoming stronger. I started talking to one of my ex's again as "just friends" I kind of felt feelings coming back so I told him I thought it was better if we didn't talk for a while because I am with someone I really love & am not willing to lose that! I haven't talked to him since & my relationship with my fiance is even stronger now then ever! Hope this helps.
P.S. if there are feelings between a guy & a girl it is hard to stay "just friends"
2006-07-26 05:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by sftballgrl48328 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely to a pair degree sure this is exchange into an undesirable relationship/friendship. with the aid of actuality which you're obsessing on it. this is inflicting you to have rigidity approximately. there is not any clarification which you are able to worry or situation that your friendship wont be the comparable once you get lower back to college. i'm particular this is going to likely be effective and develop yet once you proceed with the obsessing you run the possibility of ruining the friendship your self. you are able to desire to take a deep breath and ask your self if your fears are official which they do no longer seem to be. sure he is going to text cloth his extreme college acquaintances! you are able to desire to look at in yet differently then you quite are. don't get jealous if he's acquaintances with different those which ability he has uncomplicated interest with them. Which i'm particular you are able to too. you need to attempt and alter into acquaintances those people additionally. this is recommended to hunt for some counseling for this obsessions can exchange into very damaging and are very stressful to handle on your individual. i be responsive to i'm OCD and that i've got been with the aid of an identical undertaking in the previous. you additionally can %. up a e book or 2 approximately self-incredibly worth that could coach you to construct some extra. The Six Pilars of self-incredibly worth is a sturdy one. It seems such as you have insecurities and those insecurities sound like that they are rooted out of low self incredibly worth. No offense. till you will hit upon a counselor every time you start to obsess over the friendship you are able to desire to do some thing that could take your strategies off of it. choose for a jog or some thing a protracted those lines. in case you won't be in a position of arise with the funds for a counselor with the aid of your self and want your father and mom that can assist you you with it in basic terms tell them this is a personel situation which you're no longer comfortable sharing with them.
2016-10-08 08:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You done messed up bad, stop right there and think about this for one second. How in the heck would YOU feel if this was your husband out there seeing another woman behind your back, taking her out to eat, etc? You are cheating on your husband any way you want to look at it. You want to talk to someone on the net, talk to them on the net and stay on the net with them, let your husband know that you are talking to people on the net and about what.
You might not think that you are cheating on your husband but you are!!!!!
My motto: Don't say or do anything that you won't say or do in front of your mate.
You have been doing all this already with this person, so yes you are cheating on him.
2006-07-26 05:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is u r heading straight for an affair be careful very careful. u r not reading too much into it prevent urself from infedelity. opposite sexes can be friends but i think in ur case hormones r taking over . if u want to be his friend only meet when families r meeting and ur hubby is with u . that seems more safe. good luck
2006-07-26 05:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...OMG! You are treading on dangerous ground. It seems to me that you both have feelings for each other that may, eventually, lead into the wrong direction. Ofcourse, you can remain friends without becoming romantically involved, but it's gonna be hard. This is going to be a battle between mind, heart, and body. My fear for you is that you may get tired of fighting your heart and body, and give in to temptation. Please don't let this relationship destroy your marriages and families. Good luck.
2006-07-26 05:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by keipitright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have kept this friendship online. I don't EVER see the point of bringing an internet relationship into reality. If you keep it internet..it stays platonic, but you went out on DATES with this guy and your fooling yourself if you think differently.
2006-07-26 05:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm reading more into it, and it seems like you're getting more than just friends vibe on both halves. Personally, I think if you guys don't cool off the hanging out and stuff, I smell affair...but meh, I'm me.
2006-07-26 05:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by roverriffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could be normal. You could just be getting a more brother/sisterly bond between you two. Then again, be very careful. This could be a romantic relationship blossoming and you don't want to ruin what you already have.
2006-07-26 05:06:24 · answer #11 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋