we were the best of friends before even dating and after the breakup we decided to really try a "just friends" relationship.
but he keeps cancelling plans with silly excuses.. and finding every reason under the sun to not be alone with me. how do i get him back into my life..whether as a friend or more?
2006-07-26 05:02:59 · 12 answers · asked by mervelash 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hold on guys
i forgot to mention that he does like seeing me in group settings..like parties, meetings, etc.
i think he just wants to avoid one on one...is it because hes afriad of true feelings coming back? or is he scared of getting hurt again?
2006-07-26 05:08:50 · update #1
he is also moving in about a month and i dont want him to leave as my "aquaintance" ... i want a friendship at least so we can pursue a relationship (maybe) in the future... when he broke up with me he said he wanted to try after soem time as friends.
2006-07-26 05:11:16 · update #2
I can understand his thinking.
Once you have had a sexual relationship, he, the man, will always want an "occasional one," and that's not being "just friends." That is, if you say yes to his request. If you say no and remind him that you're "just friends," it is frustrating for him.
Let him go in peace. And you, too. There is NO friendship between men and women after sex.
2006-07-26 05:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sigh ... these questions are common on Yahoo! Answers, and when - oh! WHEN - will people learn to include the KEY piece of information?
WHO broke up with WHOM?
If you broke up with your ex, this is BRUTAL territory for a guy. To have a good friendship turn into a romance digs a really REALLY deep canyon for deep deep feelings. Then POOF!, its gone ... and the friendship seems a little like a small crack in the sidewalk. Its tough to go back. Yet first and foremost you don't want to be a hang dog and always ask to get back together - you want to give "your old friend" their space and respect them.
It sounds as if you broke up with him.
You also need to learn - the younger you learn it, the better you'll be - is that women are much more emotionally compartmented than men. Women get over relationship things and move on faster than men do. We can't just "get over things" the way chicks do.
Let time heal some wounds ... let it rest for a month, then call him. I had an ex-girlfriend manage the post relationship with the utmost beauty and maturity, and we are very close to this day.
If you care, give it time, then invest the time and energy and it will work out.
Good luck ...
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2006-07-26 13:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still has feelings for you that are more than just friend feelings. Right now he is not comfortable around you. You should give him space and maybe in few months he will be able to hang out with you. If he doesn't come around, then move on.
2006-07-26 12:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me a few months ago when my ex broke up with me. you need to let go of him. you need to focus on other things and try not to think about him.
i know how incredibly hard this is but trust me it will get better.
there will be days where your heart just aches and you really want to call him. don't. he doesn't want you in his life right now and you need to just respect his decision despite how much it hurts. if he wanted you in his life, he would call you.
spend time with friends, have fun, get some hobbies, swim in the ocean, write all your thoughts down in your journal. its so incredibly painful, but you have to let him go and let go of your relationship/attachment to him in your mind. See yourself as a valuable individual and be able to see yourself defined as of worth without him. You don't NEED him despite how much you think you do. There is a better guy out there for you who will appreciate you, trust me.
2006-07-26 12:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shoud move on...it is very difficult to remain friends with an ex. There are a lot of nice men out there who would appreciate a good woman. Good Luck!
2006-07-26 12:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by blue_eyed_soul_woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult to be friends with an ex. If he is acting this way, it might be best not be friends for now. You guys might be friends later, but right now you have to leave that ball in his court. Good luck.
2006-07-26 12:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to let him go. He obviously does not want to spend time with you, friends or otherwise. Why keep throwing yourself at him, he is probably have a laugh at your expense. Move on and let him go.
2006-07-26 12:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is time you move on. Sounds like he doesn't want you in his life anymore. Best of luck to you!!!!!
2006-07-26 12:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by RedCloud_1998 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when you start dating someone who was your friend first you can't really be friends again,and most of the time when people break up they say lets be friends it neva works out?
2006-07-26 12:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by playgurl pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup they always like that... But give him sometimes maybe he not ready... Times can prove everything
2006-07-26 12:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋