2006-07-26 04:56:00 · 34 answers · asked by james c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if u have waited this long, i definitely say wait for that special some one. it has taken a lot of effort and determination on your part to remain chaste for so long...especially in this world of corruptness. so continue to take care of urself and wait and give it up to that one that is deserving of u. i waited until i was 25 and gave it up to someone i truly loved and he truly loved me back.
2006-07-26 05:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by MsNic 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all much respect for asking such an open question.
Ok number 1 - Add another 20 years to your life. You are still waiting to find that special someone and wishing you had taken the chance 20 years ago, who knows? It may have opened up your eyes to the realisation that sex is not such a big deal. Once you have that realisation the pressure is lifted and you can enjoy the relationship for what it is. Another way to look at this scenario is how many 28yr old virgin females do you know? I guarantee you that the majority of women have lost it by then. Does your "right one" need to be in that small minority of 28 yr old virgins? If so then you are severely restricting your options by saying for someone to be your one they need to not have had sex with another man. Another part of this scenario is if you do find her and she too is a virgin, would it not worry you that in time she would not see if it is better elsewhere? Simply put, how can she rate you without somebody to rate you against.
Anyway Number 2 - You jump into bed with your friend. Has the offer come in? You suggest that is has as you have been given the option. Why is this? Does this friend harbor feelings for you that you can not reciprocate? Or is it just sex for her too? If it is just sex then do you think she is the type to become attached? And are you ready for the consequences? Don't get me wrong, sex between friends has its plus points, but both parties need to be absolutely crystal clear that it is just sex, no emotions. Personally for me, I did things with the specific intention of it leading to sex, now I have sex with the intention of it leading somewhere else, somewhere deeper into the emotions because sex is not the basis of which a relationship can be founded.
Number 3 - My personal choice for you. Go out, get laid! Sorry to be crude but this issue is hanging over you like a cloud. Go to a bar, pull someone and get it over with. You won't endanger your relationship with your friend and you won't have this issue hanging over you when you meet "the one" (She may sense it and run). I'm 32 now and I still haven't met "the one" maybe I never will. Maybe my standards are too high (which they certainly are) Maybe she doesn't exist? But mate, I'm not going to sit around waiting for her, I'm going to chance my arm as I always have.
To sum up my feeling on this subject - Nobody can know if a particular person is "the one" without having sex because sexual attraction is part of the package. Test the waters, use your tackle and go fishing.
2006-07-26 06:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by dave w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your Best judgment only you know what is best for you. Some would say jump in. Others would say wait for "the one". Ask yourself about how you feel about being a virgin. Are you comfortable with that? I don't think you should just give yourself to just anybody. If you wish to get it on now, let it be with someone you trust, know and love. Not saying they should be the one,but definitely someone who loves and cares for you. No telling when "the one" will come along, 9 times out of 10, "the one" won't wait for you.
2006-07-26 05:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Rhea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should be commended for your commitment to remain a virgin.
When the time is right, you will know. If you have to ask this question, then you probably aren't ready to simply jump into bed with that friend.
2006-07-26 05:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI
I think you should do what you feel is right, only you can can do it. So i recon,if you want to wait and find the girl or guy you want to loose your virginity too, WAIT, but if you just want to be able to say, im not a VIRGIN anymore, just have a one night stand(not avised)
(sorry for any spelling mistakes, im dyslexic)
Lou
xxx
2006-07-26 05:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by loupay82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lmao. Sorry. Ok, err, I think that if curiousity is just knawing away at you, then you should just go for it. Take some willing participant home from the bar or the club, and just do it! Note: (((((use protection and caution))))) On the other hand, if you are willing to wait for the right one to come along, then good for you. BTW, are you male or female? Just curious.
2006-07-26 05:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by keipitright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just shy of 29 when I got married. We were both virgins. Well worth the wait. BTW she is my best friend.
2006-07-26 05:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of think you should have at least a little experince sexually before you get with "the right one" so you both will be able to be comfortable with your sexuality. Practice makes perfect :D
Besides if you put too much emphasis of everything being so perfect for your first time, you may be sorely dissapointed when it only lasts about three seconds ;)
2006-07-26 05:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait to find the right one!
2006-07-26 05:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much respect for admitting 2 it. I was heading the same way and in the end just got an escort round. Maybe shouldnt with a friend or it might ruin the relationship
2006-07-26 05:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by bullatpool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋