My best guy friend ever is in real trouble. He's been dating a girl for 6 months and has recently found out she's Pregnant!!! My friend is devastated. He's still in college and trying hard to secure his future. He's not ready to be a dad but wants to try to be the best dad he can be anyway. The problem is the girl. In the beginning she started out cool, fun, and sweet. But now she's paranoid, demanding, and insanely jealous of his other relationships. She's trying to run his life in every area. Now he thinks he wants to leave her because she's not who he thought she was. And this is not a hormonal thing, either. She keeps saying how she can't wait till the kid is out so she can party again!! I guess my question is how do you leave a pregnant girl without a huge, ugly mess and still be a good dad?
2006-07-26 04:52:33 · 11 answers · asked by melbel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
boy he is in a world of trouble...and well i do not think i would marry her cause it will probably not last..let her have the child and let him help support the baby.. but the question is what kind of mother will she be..this is really a sad situation..i know you already said she is demanding and jealous and trust is a big part of a relationship....he needs to try and make it through college.. is there any family members that can help with this situation..basically she has to decide what she is going to do besides party.. that does not sound good..raising a child is a job on its own...well i hope things do straighten out for them but i do not know what else to say.. family is who i would turn to for help...good luck
2006-07-26 05:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by sanangel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a very ugly situation. But this might get him off to a good start:
1. A Father is a full time job weather he likes it or not. Your friend is going to have to make sacrifices.
2. If the baby's mother is going to be obnoxious and a bad mother, he's going to have to make an important decision: He might have to raise the kid himself or give the kid up for adoption.
3. If he does not want to date this girl, he will more than likely have to pay child support. Get him comfortable with the idea.
4. Make sure he fights for custody of the child or shared custody.
5. Pray.
Good luck.
2006-07-26 05:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, in this type of world there is no way to leave a girl while she is prego without being the bad guy. You have to do what is right for you and your soon to be child... Tell her you dont want to continue 'seeing' each other but do want to stay appart of her and your childs life. You have just as much say in this childs life as she does. You two need to sit down together and talk over what you think is right keeping the baby or even giving it up for adoption. Once you make a decision, stay by her side until its born and do what needs to be done to make sure this child has a good life.
2006-07-26 04:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by MsLysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is going to be hard leaving a women like that. if it was me in that situation, i would just leave and not come back. i mean.....she's not going to be a good mother if u think about it. a foster home or an adoption is the best for the kid. the mother is too bad, and the father can't support the child. they could try to get marry and both take care of the child, but i'm pretty sure its not going to work out. adoption or foster home for the kid, and mom and dad don't see eachother is the solution i think.
2006-07-26 05:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but your friend is screwed. It's very difficult to be a dad and have nothing to do with the mother. That, and legally, he's going to get his *** handed to him because he's "a negligent individual" for not being by her side while she was pregnant. She's gonna milk him for all he's worth, and he'll be lucky to make it through college with all this mess. Just make sure a paternity test is done shortly after birth to confirm it's his child....you just never know.....
2006-07-26 04:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Neema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have considered all of this before giving it to her bare! They both have to pay the consequences! Hed better at least somewhat stay with her till after the baby is born. At that point if she is really partying and being a bad mom, he might be able to get full custody and be that dad he should be!
2006-07-26 04:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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you cant. theres gonna be some type of mess in that kind of situation, no matter which exit you choose to come out of. there's gonna be paperwork in the mix, & court sessions too. so im sayin he can leave her but there's gonna be drama. you get past that, the papers, court...then maybe, MAYBE, he'll obtain visitation rights or whatever & can be a good dad from there
2006-07-26 04:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by metronome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend only has one course of action. Determine a method to support the child. Neither of them are mature enough to be married. I personally think she should put the child up for adoption.
2006-07-26 04:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you don't want him with her. in this situation i think you should stay out of it. what if they stay together and she finds out that you were trying to break them up. you mite be his best friend now but trust me once that kid is born he will do whatever is right for that child. so if the girlfriend hates you don't be surprised if loose your best friend. let them handle this. i know you want to help your friend but all the help you should give is being there for him in whatever decision he makes.
2006-07-26 05:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by eight beers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave and be there for the kid and hope it's his kid 6mths isn't a long time next time tell him to protect himslef
2006-07-26 04:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋