I once had a friend whose husband left her for a woman he had been screwing for two years. Her husband told her that he was leaving her, because the other woman was more attractive and better in bed. Also, he had the nerve to tell my friend that she would never find anyone else! Her husband was a pharmacist, and it was only because my friend had put him through pharmacy school by working s**t jobs. He didn't work when he was in school, because he "didn't want to bring (his) grades down". When he left my friend, he was earning more money in a week than she did in a whole month, but he only had to pay her alimony for 3 YEARS!Don't you think this guy should be punished somehow?
2006-07-26 04:35:43 · 35 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, his name is Dennis Brown, and the last time I heard, he was living in Boise, Idaho.:) How's that for "spilling the beans"?
2006-07-26 04:41:47 · update #1
pablo h: My guess is that you are just like this s**thead. And by the way, he should be paying my friend for the rest of his life, because he wouldn't be living on a ranch and driving several cars if it weren't for the fact that my friend put him through school!
2006-07-26 04:43:54 · update #2
Thank you, Kevin! Perhaps it isn't my place to do this, but I just get pissed off at the injustice of it all. Thankfully, I can vent on Yahoo!Answers, though!
2006-07-26 04:47:21 · update #3
FREAKZILLA:If he wasn't happy at home, he should have at least had the balls to leave before screwing the other woman. But then again, it sounds like you're the sort to cheat, too.
2006-07-26 04:52:36 · update #4
flagger_guy: He DOES owe his degree to her. After all, if he had actually gotten off his a** and worked while he was going to school so he could pay his tuition bills, this wouldn't be an issue! And my posting his name and city isn't nearly as unethical as his screwing around on his wife!
2006-07-26 05:00:11 · update #5
Jookemgood: Pray that you don't hook up with someone like Lorena Bobbitt, because you would definitely deserve it.
2006-07-26 05:01:24 · update #6
I think someone should slap the **** outa him. If I were to put my husband through school then him leave me and say them cruel things to me and about me I think he'd be dead. But thats just me.
2006-07-26 04:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by lillady 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had this e-mail sent to me. A guy wrote it.
IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
2006-07-26 06:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by Building Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's whatever you want to call him. Basically he went from moocher to money man.. but trust me, that doesn't last long. I don't like to get spiritual on people as it can become confusing and I'm not a preacher, but... God has a way of working things out for the kind hearted. See, this guy will not enjoy everything he has attained through someone else. There will be a time or times, when he'll need someone to get to the next step, eventually no one will be there except for your friend (at least in his mind she'll be there). Think about Diary of a Mad Black Woman. Not the exact same story line, but with many similarities. The outcome will always be the same for the kind hearted and wounded. You'll leave happy and free whether the idiot is around to witness it or not. Tell your friend to stay focused on who she is, just more cautious to some degree. Many people in this world are not good for us but we learn this sometimes through experience.
2006-07-26 05:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't. I do not see a problem with this situation. I mean hey if you find somebody hotter and they are a better screw then why wouldn't you go for it. You would have to be a fool not too. As for the alimony why should a guy have to pay for the rest of his life to an ex that is a money hungry grub?
2006-07-26 04:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by pablo h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma is a bit(h. Here is what will happen- New woman will eventually leave him, taking most of his money, possessions, dignity, etc. If they have kids together, he will get to pay her alimony/child support for the rest of his life while she is happily married to the hot pool boy, who she was cheating on him with all along. There will also be a good possibility that at least one of those hypothetical children will belong to said pool boy, but the husband won't know that. Ain't life grand?
2006-07-26 04:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a divorce there is no winning, there are just different degrees of losing. I think that your friend was very lucky to even get alimony for three years as many judges only allow alimony for one year, and I understand that your friend works so' honestly, she got a great deal.
I'm not comdoning what he did to her, as cheating is devastating, but it's time to let go and move on instead of simmering in bitterness and self pity.
Good luck.
2006-07-26 04:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I think your friend should fight this and find a really good lawyer. I know they are expensive, but it will be worth it in the end. If it were not for her, her would not be ****, and it is ashamed because a lot of men do this to women and then they think they are the **** when they really would not amount to anything if it were not for us women. She needs to prove that she was the only income the whole time he was in school, and she needs to get what she deserves. good luck!
2006-07-26 04:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he's indeed a bastard. But who should punish him and when?
You can only hope that someday he is as miserable as he made someone else.
Do you believe in karma? What goes around comes around?
Sorry but there are bastards in the world who have great lives and they never pay for the heartache they cause.
2006-07-26 04:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be a big one.
I do not think your outing him here very ethical either. If you have kahunas to post his name and city you should have the same ones and post your own name and city.
I do know one thing. The minute your friend pointed out that he owes his degree to her, by supporting him, that was the minute he thought about leaving.
2006-07-26 04:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair, but the courts don't look at what money went into him getting his degree because they were together then and it wasn't a loan. It's unfortunate, but time to move on and not let the negativity towards this man ruin her life......
2006-07-26 05:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋