We never can talk nicely. I try a lot of time but we still end up quarelling..
2006-07-26 04:23:39 · 13 answers · asked by Mary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My Lady, what sorts of matter do u 2 keep quarrelling? If its not bcos of someone sharing 1/2 of ur hubby, then what esle is so great a problem 4 u 2 to quarrel? Have any kids? If so, why not try 2 put ur efforts & time on them & at the same time concern more on him.When coming up 2 making decisions, if he feels & thinks that he is right, let he be. U lost nothing! As time passes, he will comes back 2 look 4 ur opinions, decisions & ur says. Is it worthl 2b a little tolerates that can save a lot of energy & even gives u a happy marriage in returns! Give urself a try. Best luck.
2006-07-26 05:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by cancerlady 2 · 9⤊ 3⤋
You might consider seperation or even divorce! You have to be happy there is no reason to be in something that is making you feel bad. But you can also consider seeing a therapist. Just end up working thru everything that is causing you to quarell
2006-07-26 04:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by pullersgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long did you know one another before you got married? If he's always talking about his ex now, and to everyone else, I would think he did it when you first met him? You are married now, so if you love this man, I would say talk to him, but stop pressing the issue. If he was married a lot of years, he's probably still not yet gotten over the hurt and anger about how he felt being divorced. I feel that's something a person should be healed from before they re-marry, but I can also relate to it. He won't ever forget her, but trying to get him to get rid of things or not talk about things, will possibly make it worse for you. Perhaps, you can try to be understanding and let him vent, then tell him, okay, now that's enough for today...or ask him to try not to talk about that so much, maybe he doesn't even realize he's doing it. Is his ex re-married? Really doesn't matter, but was just wondering.
2016-03-26 22:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Susan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Hun...sounds like you both have a control issue. My advice to you is to just try to talk with your husband nicely and let him know that you are tired of always fighting and want to start having a nicer set of conversations. I have been there. Me and my spouse fight occassionally and when that happens it starts a series of arguments for days about all kinds of different stuff. The best way to resolve that is to try to let the "husband" be right sometimes. To avoid an argument...I will say something like "your right" "I'm sorry" and smile (nicely and sincerely is the key here not fake) or say something like "Yea I guess we don't agree on that...but whats important is that you are my husband and I love you" That works. Guys get all upset then that they are being a bully and try to apologize. A few times of that kind of stuff happening and surely he will step down and realize what hes doing that he is overpowering the relationship. It works girl.......just every so often it comes back up in our relationship and I just have to start the your right and always right stuff and he will back down........if he dosent then he dosent love you enough to care about your feelings and your thoughts.
2006-07-26 04:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both have to adjust your mind and be cool with each other ,fighting is not good in married life , little quarell is okay with partner but not always , you have to clear your fight with each other , on what base you both start quarelles , make involve some of your family member to solve this problem permanently .
2006-07-26 04:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by handsum025 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and I are the same way...general conversation is fine, but serious matters....no way...we are both so stubborn and hard headed and are certain that our point of view is the right one, that we both get mad when the other doesn't agree, and we "close our minds" to the ideas of the other person...it gets ugly sometimes....the easiest thing for us to do is to put it on paper. When you write it down that way, you are able to express all of your thoughts and opinions without getting interrupted and it turning into a big fight. One of you start, then go back and forth. There are sometimes still harsh words on paper, but you can at least get it all out without interruption...just a thought...it works for us.
2006-07-26 04:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your partner need to seek help in the form of a marriage counsellor to discuss your issues as it seems that you have tried but not having any success between you....maybe talking in person to a professional person may be a better option....Good luck.
2006-07-26 04:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by sarah y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both have a alot of pent up anger. Maybe a marriage counselor, or a mediator could help you sort thru it! Good Luck!
2006-07-26 04:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't communicate you've got problems. You need a marriage counselor.
Did something happen to cause the anger between you two?
2006-07-26 04:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ann Chovie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you know this before you got married? If you can not talk nicely to each other, maybe you married the worng person.
2006-07-26 04:34:09 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋