How can I have self-confedense???

Question

pls help me....how to have trust in my self....

Answer 1

Self confidence/self esteem comes from within. You must stop thinking about what other people think of you. You must look at yourself, and be happy with the person you are. You are the only one who has to live with you, so you had better be sure that you like yourself. If you dont, or are having problems liking yourself, maybe you should seek out a psychologist for some help. It doesnt mean you are crazy, it simply means you may need some help learning how to love yourself
surround yourself with positive people and dont sit there thinking badly about yourself write on a post it note ..your hot and leave it on your door or something so u have to say it to yourself every day and eventually u will believe it!!
i used to have very low self confidence but with the people i surround myself with and ignoring the hurt that i got in the past i have gotten better
first of all you must keep on talking to Yourselves that You have something to be proud of.....such as You are good in sport, specific lesson (math, science etc).....
And open your hand in helping people when they asked you. Do it sincerely.
When people come and asked for help, and You could help them at least giving an input or suggession will raise Your confidence.....seems like that you are meaning something to other people, and otomaticly will boost confidence in You

Answer 2

Believe it or not - self-confidence is built. It is built by levels. When you are born, your parents and family are the first authors of this construction. They help you build "self-esteem". This trend continues though school and social involvement. What happens is, many of us are short-circuited along the way by people to tear down the self-esteem and eventually the confidence is blown apart - without a chance to develop. You have to circumvent these activities in yourself. It is difficult. Why? Because so much destruction has already taken place and it is harder to work against the labels people place against you. However, you have to work hard to change those attitudes and produce in yourself the confidence you know is already there. You have to take small steps toward making you feel good about you. You can't be the victim. Take a sheet of paper and begin to write down your definition of yourself. Who do you believe you are? What 'things' do you know how to do? (draw, paint, cook, etc.) Then, write down the very simple things that you "own" about yourself that you feel good about. For example: you might have a beautiful smile and use it for others, hands - you may be good at building things, putting things together, your mind - you might be smart, witty, humorous, kind, etc.) These are things 'you' own - nobody can take them from you. Embrace these things. Build your confidence on the things you see and know about yourself. Build on those positive areas and continue to build on those areas. You probably have more confidence than you know - you just have had little opportunity to show it. Even when things don't turn out the way you think they should, it's still ok. You can still trust yourself. I would recommend that you read self-help books and check out websites to help engage self confidence and self esteem building. I wish you well. This is an ongoing and lifetime process. Eliminating your mind of the 'trash' that other people feed you and sometimes that we feed ourselves can take time, but you have to be determined and know that you want this positive change in your life. If you are old enough, seek out support groups in your community that encourage self-confidence building. You must surround yourself with people who have a mind-set to be positive and don't degrade and talk negatively about people, etc. Otherwise, you will defeat your own purpose. Build your confidence by helping to build others'.

***** I just found another site that you might find very interesting..it's called "The Confidence Club". Please enter this site and take the questionnaire. It is a series of questions that will determine what areas you may need 'confidence' and they go on to help you 'get there'. I registered and plan to participate. It appears to be very helpful. You should let us know if this works for you. Good luck.

Answer 3

Every single person is different. You are one of a kind. Everything that you think is absolutely wonderful. Society is just at a stage where there is this need for acceptance. What I have found, after struggling with the self-confidence, people love individuals. Everyone loves someone that is totally unique! The great part is, is that we already have that. So, express every part of yourself. Listen to your self and go with your own thoughts. People will always try to push others down. This spawns from their own insecurities. They just take out their insecurities in a different way than you do. I know that you will find that self-confidence that you seek. I am so confident in you!

Answer 4

You are already on the right track. You have realized that only you can give yourself self confidence and trust in yourself. If you can ask this question, then you know it is possible to do. Just keep with it. It is a process. Don't be hard on yourself when you make mistakes. Forgive yourself and move on. Figure out what your strong points are and be proud of them, what your weak points are and be okay with them. Stick to your morals, and don't forget to have fun, because life is short, and having fun is good for your soul. Learn to laugh at yourself too.

Answer 5

Start by looking into a mirror, twice a day, and saying with meaning,"I am a good person." Read Dr. David Burns book,"The Feeling Good Book," it will help.
Memorize a poem or a speech, and do it in front of your best friend. Do it in front of your family. Begin to speak in front of strangers. Take baby steps.

Answer 6

read self-development books and follow them. Some of them:
Think and grow rich - napoleon hill
How to influence people and win friends - Dell Carniege

Answer 7

know that you are special ~~ as everyone is!! We are all children of God and he loves you because you are his own...
take baby steps ~~ whenever you do something that you know is good and is right, pat yourself onthe back mentally... self-confidence is an inside job.... you become what you think you are.....you are just as worthy as everyone else is of happiness and serenity. don't be too hard on yourself. good luck

Answer 8

Repeat after me ......... I believe in myself .. I am good looking, confident and successfull...

repeat this at least 5x every hr!

Now .. if you don't do this ... you are destined to be a failure and deserve what happens!

Now ... email me for further instructions =)
This is only the beginning of your life.

Answer 9

Know and trully believe you are fully loved and accepted by God.
And working on something -- start with something small -- let experience of success bring confirmation.

Answer 10

just do some difficult/dangerous stuff, if u do them right, it will give u self confidence to do other things