wat do u do when ur teenage son stars talking back , and does not want to study.?

Answer 1

I think the best thing you can do is let him fail, as far as the studying goes, people who do really well in school when they are young don't do it for the right reasons, and those are to get somewhere in life, alot of time they do it because their parents expect it.

If your son doesn't do well in school he won't have many options in life, if he is happy with that then ok, that's fine. But if he isn't happy with it, then he has to have to grit, to make changes in his life FOR HIMSELF, I think you should let him do whatever he wants scholastically, and when he wakes up and he is 25 and still working a worthless job, if he isn't stupid he will get his act together (hopefully he will wake up before then but people mature at different rates)

as for the back talking... it depends on what he is saying, if you are butting heads then it might not be the best thing to slug him in the jaw a few times, be the bigger person, be the adult and don't let your emotions run wild. but if he is just being a prick, and doing it to show that he can back hand him into next week, this whole thing he is doing is about learning about cause and effect.

IE: he fails in school (cause) and he can't get a decent job (effect)

He back talks to you and is generally a jerk (cause) you back hand him (effect)

It is the best way for him to learn. My mother was SUPER strict about education and i fought her every step of the way... not because i didn't want an education but because she made such a big deal out of it i would have done anything to be my own person and not be pushed. Finally I moved out of my parents house and she couldn't control me anymore, and I decided that I wanted to be a network engineer, well I needed and education.

I got it on my own, and now I do what I love. Education? doesn't mean anything, nobody needs an education, because an education in and of itself means virtually nothing. But if you have a goal and a required component of that goal is education, then you will get one if you want to achieve your goal.

I hope this advice helps even if it was somewhat rambling.

Answer 2

If this is a sudden change and your son is doing things he has never done before - it could be evidence of drug use. If you have no overt evidence of drugs and don't want to make a big deal of it, I would schedule an appointment with your family doctor for a "back-to-school" physical. He could do a drug screening as he checks for other things. Your son would not have to know he was doing this if you think he might over react . He could also screen him for signs of depression which can manifest themselves in misbehavior and lack of ability to concentrate in adolescents and teenagers.
I disagree with the other answers that said this is normal teen behavior and you should live with it. There are many really great teenagers out there that do not behave this way. The longer you allow this to go on - the worse it will get.

Answer 3

Here's what you can do well act like you ignore him but when he finally come's to you for help listen to him talk to him.First before all of this have a nice talk to him about how if he don't study he will not go anywhere in life now and days you have to have a degree to have a job or at least a certificate that you finished school sp tell him all of this and have him study make him stay in his room until he actually studies don't let him out of the room take his phone away his whatever else away that he loves to do.Well good luck with all this.

Answer 4

When he talks back to you, don't even try to have a conversation with him. You should make it a point not to talk to him, period. If you find yourself arguing with him, no progress is being made. So don't even talk to him if he's mouthin' off.

As far as the homework..........show him how it is to be an adult. Teach him that he cannot enjoy what he wants, unless he does those things that he does not want to do, namely, his responsibilities.

If he doesn't study, don't feed him. If he's hungry, he can feed himself, but you can set rules as to what he can eat. Follow me.....he can study and enjoy the family meal, or he can refuse to study and eat rice cakes or carrots. Either way, don't give in, he needs authority in his life. He's still a child, yet wants to be an adult, so he doesn't know how to act. He needs guidance, but he needs limits as well.

If the worst happens, beat the hell out of him. But he needs to learn that life is made up of adults doing what they don't want to do, just so they can do the things they want to do. I just confused myself.

Good luck.

Answer 5

beat him into obedience :) lol no im j/k anyway try compromising with him if u want me to do this for u ur gonna have to work with me and do this (study) or whatever u want him to do, don't hold the rains to tight on him because he will just start hating u and disobeying more, just be there for him, he is just going thought his teenage yrs, but u still dont want to give him to much freedom and u also dont want to hold to tight, but make compromises with him and work together, see what the problems in his life are that are causing this and try to help but dont interefere to much let him come to you, just give it time and have patience and it will all be ok and enjoy it he's only going to be a teenager once :)

Answer 6

Drive him to a homeless shelter and drop him off for an hour. When you pick him up, tell him that if he doesn't stop talking back and start studing, he can expect this for his future. Point out that this future may come sooner than later since you will throw him out of the house if he disrespects you again.

T.

Answer 7

Just because he is a teen doesnt matter. You are still his parent and he is still living in your house. Enforce your rules! Take things away from him, TV, computer, gaming system, whatever. If he gets to irate, take him to counseling. He might be dealing with outside pressures that you dont know about. Just make it well known that is it your house, your rules and he will abide by them as long as he lives there.

Answer 8

Celebrate! You are enjoying the joys of parenthood!

Answer 9

You pick up a 2 X 4, and then smack him with it! (repeatedly)
hahaha
lol
jk

Answer 10

ground him for a month. he'll get the hint.