Well i have been going out with this lad for a while now
and at the moment i dont have much in my life
with my mum being ill and job less
and when he comes round or we go out its like my hightligt of the day but soon he is going away for a while to a camp and i am really going to miss him and not sure how to make my day?
any advice?
2006-07-26 03:58:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think you need to look around for more friends to spend time with. If you are old enough to get a job - try that. Read some books. Expand yourself.
2006-07-26 04:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start your day by signing up to a gym. When you felt the adrenaline then go to library and then come home watch some telly and then after east enders try looking up some ad. for jobs you think you can do and enjoy doing. To be honest I have had an operation and been sitting home for some 3 weeks now and feel like a right veg. Any person need to feel useful and not just hang about waiting for the dude to arrive. That dude will be riding you later on and using all your imaginery inadequacy against you. Try going around employment agencies and get a proper life.
2006-07-27 09:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by one_faithful_mo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Claire,
It is a dangerous thing to make another person your life, and it is unfair to the other person as well. While I'm sure that he is probably flattered at this, it probably scares him a bit too as he knows that gives him great power and control over you.
Instead, make him a part of your life, but not your entire life hon. Break this habit now while you are young. Figure out what your own goals and dreams are and how you are going to pursue them. If he is worthy, he will encourage you, ad be with you every step of the way. And in the end, you'll be able to say that you built a life together.
If he is unworthy, then he will not encourage you and along the path he will fade. That is okay too, as you can still say that you built your life. Someone later will enter into it and the two of you will build a life together, helping each other to realize your goals.
It is good that you have found someone to love at your age, and you feel the person loves you as well. Be careful that you are not using him as your escape from a difficult time in your life. Often, we don't realize that is the case as it is occurring, but in hindsight, we understand it to be so.
Letting someone be your life is a great burden and responsibility to them. I don't think it's fair to lay that kind of burden upon the shoulders of this young man that you are so enamored with.
2006-07-29 14:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by mmpd0157 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a hobby, get some good friends, get a career, all hard to do with your current situation, but you can always plan for your dreams, that is how I made my escape, I have never looked back, or relied on anyone since. So what do you dream of doing? find it, and do it, if you dont know then get out there and find something.
Its good that you have someone special but you need to be able to do your own thing every now and again and be stronger, even if he does make you weak in a good way... and thats it, taaa daaa
my only nice message I will be doing today
2006-07-27 04:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Dirk Wellington-Catt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant just get out a bit more. This is the kind of problem that has to be dealt with slowly and calmly. By forcing yourself to become more social and in the world you may damage your psyce along with it. I suggest you get some quiet time to yourself and just think and focus on exactly where your going in your life and what you are going to do about it. When you have this figured out then go out and meet people.
2006-07-26 04:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you really like this lad! you could look after your mum for a bit, or you could look for a job, or you could decide to go on a mad spending spree (as girls do), but you might wanna get yourself lost in a book , that's usually a good way to pass the time! But he can't be gone long, eh?
2006-07-26 04:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by shadowrunneruk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is the best time to discover yourself...you do not want to be just his shadow...you want to add meaning to your and his life rather than just be a part of his life...get a hobby...meet other people and maybe try and get a job...
2006-07-26 05:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by freemind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah ! Just remember that you need ur life too ! u must have some time for ur self ! well talk to him on the phone ! but ur friends , family ... etc they need u too and u need them ! so just give ur self a rest and live a lil !
i've been in tht situation be4 and remembering how fun it is spending time on myself and friends ! you'll move ON !
hope tht helped !
2006-07-26 04:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by perfectby.nature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out there and live your life. Don't make him the center of your existence.
2006-07-26 04:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gonna have to find some interests to fill up your life. Meet new people. Make new friends!
2006-07-26 04:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋