I chat to this guy online, was introduced through a friend of mine and we have only seen pics of each other...talks to me everyday online (7 months now) and then one day i he didnt open a conversation with me
and then suddenly he did saying "sorry, i didnt see you online so i didnt say hi, but how come you saw me online but you ignored me?"
eventually i asked him "since when has it been compulsory to open a conversation with you all the time?" because thats what it felt like
and he replied "i only said that because you get into a hissy fit if i dont"...
so should i have gotten offended? because i wouldnt have minded at all if he didnt talk to me...i felt degraded!
2006-07-26 03:30:58 · 35 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
for some reason people have taken this the wrong way, it was HIM who was angry that i ignored him, not me....and then i got angry because he let off that it was ME who gets angry if i am ignored!
2006-07-26 07:25:05 · update #1
gurllllllllllll ..... don't take this in a bad way, but there are ppl dying out there!!!
don't take simple things like that so hard!!
its already kinda hard to communicate on messenger since you don't hear the tone of voice of the other person, so being 'sensitive' can even make it worse!!
you are right, you don't have to start a conversation everytime ure online, but maybe the guy likes talking to you and thats why he was upset you didn't hit him up ... :-)
make up with the guy ... u been talking 7 months don't throw all away (smile)
hugs xx
2006-07-26 03:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by sue f 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You sound like you are very young and you need to get a clue.
A computer relationship for 7 months and not meeting. He is not interested in you, that is only a game to him!
Plus you are being way to up tight about a conversation, if you feel that you are being ignored then you prob are and he only talks to you because you are online and that is just a time filler.
You need to get off the computer and get a real boyfriend. He is not concerned with you, or he would of made the effort to of met you by now!
2006-07-26 03:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by chocolatesyrup101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While instant messengers are a useful comms tool, they only work by showing who on your contact list is on or offline.
some people just dont understand that being online doesnt mean you are available to chat.
For example, my PC is online all the time and when i start the machine up, it fires up Y!IM, msn and ICQ. But the machine being online does not mean I sit staring at my contact lists all day or even have them open. I usually have better things to do. A PC being online, these days isnt even an indication that the person is at their PC.
On one level, his comment shows a lack of understanding of how the net works these days with many people being permenantly connected and on another level maybe a bit too full of his own self importance.
I wouldnt read too much into it tho as IM's can so easily be taken out of context and misinterpretted.
I certainly wouldnt get bent out of shape over it tho . If he persists in thinking you should be paying him more attention, just stick him on ignore and find more easygoing ppl to chat to.
2006-07-26 04:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by DonDilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're both taking this a little too seriously. I have friends I chat to on Messenger and i see them on line but we don't always chat. Ppl can be on line doing accounts or some such. I think it best you have some understanding that there are times when you are doing other things on line. perhaps you could say hi but busy and chat some other time. Some of my friends have done this and so have I. There are times when you go on quickly for a specific reason and are then rushing to an appointment or such. Best clear the air and come to some understanding as this could keep happening and you'll lose out on some nice friendships.
2006-07-26 03:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They always say a person's true colours show as time goes by. That's why we must get to know a person better inside and out, rather than being hurt or offended. Apparently this male online contact you have been associating with does not see you as a true friend. He can't even say a word of hello and tell you that he might be busy like he used to. He's not worthy of your friendship. Move on.
2006-07-26 03:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by Austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one never feel degraded online. It's just online, cool to a point but never let anyone get past a whatever when all you do is talk online. You do have the right to be like whatever and blow him off as far as online goes, he was a lil rude. Seriously don't take it to heart and everything I talk about online is usually simple in nature. Not my real feelings or deep thoughts. If you keep the convo's light it makes it easier to be like peace when people get stupid. Save your real anger from someone you talk with face to face it will be recieved better. Just my two cents......peace
2006-07-26 03:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a person you never met- then I don't see why you should care either way about him.
If it happened in real life, you shouldn't get offended- talk it out or ignore the person. Becoming all angry just shows that there may be a reason for him to say it.
2006-07-26 03:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Classic misunderstanding. Also, it's very petty. If you like this person, and they like you, keep up the conversations. This question is very 'Seinfeld'
And to "april" above... we are real people here. I'm sure you think of yourself as a real person? How would you feel if someone thought you were less important because you were online? That's stupid. We're all real people here and we deserve to be treated as such. There would be fewer questions like this one if people would realize that.
2006-07-26 03:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by polly_peptide 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why you dont get attached to someone online you dont see them and they could be talkin to 5 other people and then like the other person more than you and not want to talk to you anymore. Go out and have fun
2006-07-26 03:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blow it off, and blow him off. Don't say anything further, and go on about your business. And stop trying to find things to be offended by, especially in an online "relationship" that isn't even a relationship.
2006-07-26 03:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋