how can I stop worrying about issue that donot concern me?

Question

I am always worried about other people, even if it is diasadvantage for me. I think about others say 60% of my time. I could not stope it.

Answer 1

Here is a saying that helps some people:
"Stop trying to run the world. Let God do it."

Answer 2

I'm the same way. Even when I was going through chemo for cancer I was worrying about other people! I had to start taking care of me.

I started asking myself if I was worrying about something that was 1) My concern in the first place? 2) A situation that I could do anything about? If the answer to both questions was no then I forced myself to back off and let it go.

The end result was that people who'd previously brought their problems to me (usually at an inopportune moment) stopped doing so. The number of times my phone rang every day was cut in half! Another bonus was that my teenage sons started trying to solve their own problems first before bringing them to me. This was harder to achieve, but I'd say things like "I'm sure you'll figure out a solution." It took some of the pressure off me and gave them a new sense of confidence.

A friend once told me "Take care of yourself first. You can't pour from an empty cup." Good luck!

Answer 3

I tend to do the same thing and I get no results,I feel like I`m beating my head against a wall with no appreciation for all that worrying I can do.I was told once the reason I worry about other people so much and what there up to is a diversion.....so I do`nt have to focus on me and whats going on in my life and what I have to deal with that is giving me enough turmoil that jumping into someone elses stuff is alot more comfortable and easier for me.So now I check myself and when I`m stressing over someone else I do a 360 and take a look at my issues,boy will that jolt your mind back to the now..its natural to be inquisitive about others and you always will be its human nature,but do`nt worry yourself into an early grave..and take care of yourself.

Answer 4

Do you feel dependent on others for your happiness and security? Perhaps you don't look at yourself as a person of value, feeling that without others to rely on, you would be nothing? Is this why you worry about other people / situations which don't directly involve you?

It is a common problem with the concept of 'self'. Your self - esteem is likely to be low. There are ways in which you can build your self esteem. - You will find many self help books explaining how. If not, you could always consult a psychologist; - don't be shy, it doesn't mean you are 'mad'. You just need some advice.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I doubt you are the only person on this site with that obsession.

Maybe you could make a list of, say, four issues to worry about for one day. You'll have to be very strict, and try hard to find solutions, even if it is for world peace. However, you have to give yourself a time limit. Two hours per day really concentrated worrying. None at all otherwise.

You will either train yourself not to worry, or you will find the answer to world peace.

Answer 6

Try thinking about positive outcomes, instead of the one you are expecting. Look for the positives in things and understand that we choose our situations. Sometimes, good things come from bad situations. And remember, worry is the interest you pay on what may never happen. Have faith that life supports us, and that every bad thing has a piece of goodness in it. It's just how you look at things. Why live in fear? Serenity is:accepting the things you cannot change, having the courage to change the things you can, and having the wisdom to know the difference.

Answer 7

I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks, and trust me what everyone else is saying is right. Change your train of thought. It sounds hard but its really not. Can you change other people's actions? No. Would it be nice? Yes. So would hitting the lottery but we can't sit there waiting for that to happen. Worrying only leads to more stress and alot of the daily stress, people bring on themselves or they intensify it. Just let things go. If you can't get your mind off of it, listen to some music and focus ONLY on the lyrics, nothing else. Hopefully that helps.

Answer 8

Obviously it concerns you, or you would not worry about it. However, you can cut the amount of worry and concern by concentrating your effort on worrying about things you can personally do something about.

If you have a solution, implement it or tell someone else who may be able to implement it. After you have exerted yourself to change the things you can change, you should no longer worry about things you can't change. And if you are not willing to use the energy to change the thing you worry about, it's not worth the effort of worry.

Answer 9

U R obsessing. Find a hobby or something to occupy your time and make a conscious effort to stay out of other peoples concerns. It will be hard at first but if u find something that interest you...you can get lost in whatever activity u choose.

Answer 10

This is something that can be used to your advantage. Use that time to think of someone you can send a card to or call to check on. I struggled with the same issue when I was younger; feeling sorry for people when it had nothing to do with me. This is not something you want to stop doing - we need more people in this world with empathy!

Answer 11

It is not a bad thing of worrying about others, a certain extend it is encourageable, but the first priority should be given about yourself. You can worry about others or to help others you if you are in a good position, so meet your own needs first and think about others around you who needs your attention and help.