I have a 9-5 job. I have a boyfriend who has purchased a condo about 4 years ago. We've been together for 4 years now and have a baby girl together. I've been paying electricity bill, telephone bill, cable bill, grocery bill. Is it right for him to ask me to help him pay the mortgage? Or to ask me to pay cheap rent? We are not married and won't be married soon I know. Sometimes when we argue I tell him that he is not doing anything for me. So he says so then move out. What do you think?
2006-07-26 03:23:53 · 19 answers · asked by Natalie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey if it looks as if its not going to work let it go. Personally i think its really ignorant of him to ask you to pay rent or morgage after your already taking care of so much. You dont have to get married to him the sea is very large but if you love him and think that he is the one then you've got issues to deal with. work on what ever you think is best and ask God for guidance in doing so and it will all work out the way it should.
2006-07-26 03:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by VANILLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him lets sit down and add up all of the bills I pay versus the rent if want I pay is cheaper than why dont we slipt it all down the middle so it will be fair. Sound good. I think so. Me and my bf did the same thing but what he didnt know is that i was paying more than him so it screwed him and i came out with 300 more a month LOL works out for the better but dont say anything if it will be cheaper to pay what you are now and some rent. Only go for the cheaper way out so you can save money
2006-07-26 10:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asks you to pay the mortgage, you should get a contract as you then actually start to own a part of the condo!
If you pay ALL the other bills without him paying half, I would consider his advise and move out as quick as possible!
Let him sit there with the bills and pay for your daughter. He doesn't seem like a guy to waste your life on.
2006-07-26 10:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by ranietsd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live together, you should each be paying half of the household bills. As far as the condo goes, yes, you should be paying something. If your taking care of all the household bills, then no, you shouldn't have to pay for his condo. Sounds like he's got the better deal. If your not happy, leave.
2006-07-26 10:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to court and soo this idiot for child support. Tell him you would like to have 20% of his income, insurance on your daughter and for him to pay 1/2 of all medical claims. then divide all of the bills in 1/2 and offer him some cheap rent payment on his condo.
He is using you.
You are sooo much better than that kind of bull.
2006-07-26 10:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were renting together would you still be sharing expenses? While it's great for him to be building home equity and securing his future, it's not helping you any. Are you able to put money away for yourself and your child? Is he putting aside money for your child? (a seperate college or savings fund) You have to make sure you can take care of yourself to ensure you will be able to continue to care for your child. Look at the total expenses and figure how to best divide responsibilities. If you are not mature enough to be able to discuss this calmly and rationally, you will need someone else to step in to help moderate or start thinking or another future. This isn't a game or a scorecard, but you need to sit down and make sure that the money situation is fair and that you both feel good about it.
2006-07-26 10:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by bebe928 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, how do I get a maid that will pay these bills and maybe even help pay my house payment? Tell the jerk to make a commitment to you and your child or get away from hi, I'm not your Dad, but this is what may daughter would be told!! Good luck.
2006-07-26 10:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by gary t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say sure if you pay half of the utilities I will pay half of the mortgage. Money destroys more couples than anything else. If you are both working then you should both pay to live there
2006-07-26 10:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set him down and tell him he should pay for some of the things too.You have a lot jobs by the way.If he says he's not going to help pay then just leave him.You have better things to do in your life then waist your time with a loser right?????????
2006-07-26 10:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by Lil'A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in a relationship u r suppose to share the responsbiltes so u r doing that ..but he feels like he is the KING by having that condo in his name ...well next time he tells u to go then leave w/baby bet he would like that extra help u give instead of paying them all plus child support ...u need to get your priorites straght for u and your baby ...DON'T LET ANYBODY HOLD U BACK FROM DOING ANYTHING.....
2006-07-26 10:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by DaNeLLe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋