If I was your arbitrator here's what I would do:
For things like checking accounts, investements, etc. split them down the middle. Same thing for credit cards. Note that for things like 401(k), IRA, pension you have to have the court issue a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) instructing the trustee/custodian to split the account.
For tangible items split them as evenly as possible. Take an item and pair it with a similar item. If you have 2 end tables, each takes 1, or one couch might count as 2 chairs. Personal property like clothes, jewelry, would be excluded from the split. Ditto with anything either of you owned before you were together. Gifts from family and friends go to the person related to the giver. If from mutual friends, include in the splitting process. Don't worry about what things cost or what they are worth, just split them in a way that you can agree to. Be generos in some of the early pairings and the other person is likely to reciprocate.
After the personal property has been split you might offer to buy or trade for items that the other person got (e.g. if they got a couch you might buy the matching chair from them).
For the house(s) either sell and split the proceeds or have it appraised and one person buys out the other's interest (appraisal less mortgage balance all divided by 2).
Underlying philosophy is that when you married you became a single financial entity and that it does not matter how much money each of you made or who paid for what during the marriage.
Keep the financial components of the split separate from the emotional aspects. Do it quick, don't sweat the small stuff. Get it done and move on.
2006-07-26 03:40:15
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answered by Anonymous
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The thing is if all this stuff is on her credit and there is still a balance then the items should go with whomever will be paying the remainder of the bill. If you can pay her for the balance, then by all means, take the things. If not, sorry, they belong to her. I don't think that you can go back and charge rent either. You two lived together as a couple. I know you're mad right now but just cut your loses. It will be easier and in the end you will feel like the bigger person working things out with her peacefully.
2006-07-26 03:22:42
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answered by dolphin2253 5
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The only thing I can personally suggest since you don't have a receipt, why don't you get a pocket size recorder and stir up the conversation regarding how you paid 1/2 for almost everything and that she shouldn't take you to court to prove that everything is her when she knows that it's perjury. (use that word) and try your darnest to get an response. meanwhile after that check around and see if you can legally use it in court. hopefully you can and if not get dirty since she is dirty, play the recording to her on her voice mail and scare her *** into changing her mind now if she is smart and does her homework and come to find out that the pre tape conversation without her knowledge is doesn't stand up in court. okay fine, challenge her and do some ethics & moral research to sought of go against the grain to the laws that have been created to protect crooks. really i would do that if she gets dirty KNOWING that you paid 1/2 for everything and she cheated on you and now rob you???? a bit much. sock it to her....
2006-07-26 03:26:55
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answered by renosgirl2006 4
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If you weren't married, of course you are entitled to the items you obtained before you moved in, and to all of what are quite obviously your personal effects.
Good news for you is that she's going to have to pay off the credit cards.
I think the money you have spent is gone.
Next time, get married before you move in. And you sound like you might need a prenup.
2006-07-26 03:24:30
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answered by wmp55 6
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stand up for 50/50 split and try to prove what you paid or at least work out how much you contributed on a percentage basis.
2006-07-26 03:26:21
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answered by Peter B 3
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the purely way you may want to be released from the employ is to have your landlord's blessing. because you're saying your landlord has been *astounding*, contact him, tell him the challenge, and word what might want to be worked out. otherwise, you'll favor to study the clause on your employ that talks about early termination costs.
2016-11-26 00:41:35
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answered by Anonymous
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wow i dont know what to do
2006-07-26 03:51:27
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answered by im so fly 4
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