My main concern is I have yet to get my HS diploma and my boyfriend currently is going into his second year at UT in Austin. If we keep the baby rather than give him/her up for adoption my Boyfriend will no longer be able to attend UT due to he wants to be there for me and our child. I love that he is willing to do this but I cannot have him give up his wonderful education that he has worked ever so hard for. Please post any advice you have. ABORTION is not an option and please keep any rude comments out. Thanks!
2006-07-26 03:17:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Go to Planned Parenthood. Explore your options.
2006-07-26 03:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get your GED equivalency diploma without problem if unable to graduate.
People with babies and families are able to finish college and do it all the time - where there's a will there's a way.
Is it that you don't live in Austin? Could you relocate? Most colleges have student apts/housing where he could live with the two of you. In these circumstances he might be eligible for grants or work-study programs. A lot of colleges have on-line courses where he could take courses from home. There are lots and lots of options. If he is a fulltime student he has access to guidance counseling at UT - he needs to see his counselor & discuss options available. If you are involved in a church you could also discuss with a pastor or counselor. And most areas have counselling available at little or no cost for those in situations like yours, and there may be financial assistance available.
Most of all, think long and hard before you make a decision that will affect the rest of your life. If you think adoption is the best option, Godspeed. There are lots of folks who can't have babies who would give yours a good home. But if you two are committed to each other and this child, hang in there. Don't do something rash that will haunt you the rest of your life. This bend in the road may cause some detours and delay some goals, but bring a human being into the world is one of the most awesome privileges we mortals ever get to experience. A child is a challenge, is never easy, but adds such a dimension to your life - you will never know love like that, and just the experience of carrying a child and birthing it - such a miracle. I am a single mom, divorced when my daughter was 3 (she is now 31). It was hard, but I wouldn't have missed it for the world. Hang in there - you are in my prayers.
2006-07-26 03:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Julep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh geez, forget all those retarded comments about marriage. That is so rude. Congrats for your stand on abortion. You can do this, don't doubt that. I had my son when I was seventeen and we're doing fine. It was hard, but you can get help. Family and friends, and yes. The state. But please heed my words when I say you must continue your education. Finish HS, or get your GED before you even give birth. If you want to go to college the state will help you with child-care and you will get lots of financial assistance. I'm not saying mooch of the government. But when you have a kid to support I think you should take any help you can get to finish your education, otherwise you will be trapped in poverty. Your boyfriend can find a school that his credits will transfer to and he should continue his education too. I know you must be scared but it's okay, you CAN do this. When you have a child, you always find a way. I know, I was there myself. And I'm not even the most responsible or strong willed person myself. It's just a matter of doing what you have to do. Congrats, again. And people-stop talking trash about not being married! It's none of your business!
2006-07-26 03:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Del 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You're young so you have lots of time.
2. Are your families willing to help out while he is in school? He only has 2 years left. If they are, he can continue in school until graduation.
3. Love...Baby...Marriage? Are there reasons you two haven't married? You don't have to get married, but if not then move forward from the idea of "love" for him and focus on a future for you and your baby.
Many people with children attend college. It is difficult but by no means impossible. If the two of you plan to be a couple, get married etc. You can still finish high school where you are and then join him at UT. You may have to work while he finishes school. This is also very common. My wife and I did the same and it was hard but we managed. It will help if your family is on board.
Don't give up and don't let everyone pressure you. The decision you make will be with you forever.
2006-07-26 03:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by bigtony615 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a little hard at 1st but he can be a great father and still continue his education. He should look into maybe reducing his classes when the baby is close to being here but he doesn't have to quit. It seems like you really love this child already and I would hate for you to give him up then regret it. What ever you decide, make sure it is what you want, take plenty of time about this discission and good luck
2006-07-26 03:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nina J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello...I am a single mom and I was 19 when I had her. What you need to know is yes it is expensive, but there is help out there. The government will even pay for your education. I suggest getting all the info before you make any decisions that (and I guarantee it will) affect the REST of your life. You will be a different person from now on, there is no going back. Do what is best for you and your baby. You can't make that decision uninformed.
2006-07-26 03:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by jenny_is_not_my_name 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any chance you could go to HS close to where he is going to college?
The two of you need to sit down with your parents and talk through your options. Maybe there is some way that it can be made to work so that your baby can stay with you.
If you can't figure out something that will work, adoption is a very good option.
2006-07-26 03:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister went to college and raised 2 children by herself. AMAZING!! Do not let your boyfriend leave college, but also you want to keep the baby. you could always get on government help for the time-being, maybe you can get a part-time job? college will only benefit you both in the long run. i'm not crazy about people living off of the government, but sometimes there are those people who need help. im a business owner and i pay into job and family services., and believe me there are SO MANY PEOPLE THAT DON'T DESERVE IT, JUST BECAUSE THEIR LAZy . KEEP THE BABY!! THAT BABY IS ALSO YOUR LIFE!!
2006-07-26 03:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about this before you got yourself pregnant. If you keep the baby...he needs to finish school so that he can support you and baby...you need to finish school and get an education yourself...go to planned parenthood...and get them to help you set up a plan to keep your baby, and to support yourselves
2006-07-26 04:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it too late ... thsts why it good not to get pregant befor marriage.....
2006-07-26 03:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by ChuLAD3P0nC3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋