Im Not married but Im in a relationship and I really love this person. We broke up for three months and during the process he got another girl pregnant. We end up talkin again and later on he told me about it. I was so upset and i didnt know what to do. I can tell he loves me but whats love got to do with it. Should I stay with him and be by his side or should I move on. Im a 20 year old college student, I have no kids. He is a 22 year old man in the navy. I have asked for other people’s advice but most of them never really loved before so they think im crazy to be with him. What should I do?
2006-07-26 03:12:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok, this is a tricky situation. I personally think that since you are young and in college you should move on with your life and continue to talk to him while he's away maybe on a friends basis. Maybe you can date others while at college and eventually build up a good relationship with this guy. The more you find out about this other girl the better. If the other girl wants nothing to do with him except him pay child support then you maybe can pursue a relationship again one day. Sit back and think about this whole situation. If you truly love him then you will have to think about your life together and that this child could one day be a permanent fixture as your stepchild. If you are truly ready for all that then move on with him, if not, move on by yourself and meet someone who will not go off with the first available girl if you split up for a bit. I wish you luck in all you do.
2006-07-26 03:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he didn't seem to be all the broken up over you that he tried to get back with you the first time you broke up, and further more he went out and had sex with another person...and now will have a child...which if you stay with him will be a permanent reminder that child should have been yours and not some ones Else's...there is a fine line here concerning whats best for you but I have to say his poor judgment is bringing to much baggage into the relationship...you deserve a fresh start with someone else that once yours will commit to always being your...not break up and get someone else pregnant .
2006-07-26 10:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE loved before, and I don't think you're crazy, but I do think you're in serious need of good, sound advice. Run, don't walk, away from this! You will be asking for a lifetime of heartache and pain if you stay with him. He will be paying child support for the next 18 years, you will never trust him completely, and will live a miserable existence of a life. You are young, and have your whole life ahead of you. Spend it with a man that loves you, and does not have so much baggage from his past. Good Luck!!
2006-07-26 10:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way - what would you want him to do if you were the one that was pregnant - stay with you or go with another woman? Think about the other girl and her child and about what is best for them. You are young enough that you can find someone else. He is old enough that he can take care of his own problems.
2006-07-26 10:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by Vanessa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cheated on you once in 3 months and got some girl pregnant.what makes you think that he won't do it again?once a dog always. you are in collage and got a whole life a head of you and no kids! there are plenty of guys out there that have no kids. are you ready to be a mother to someone else child? while he is out sleeping around on you while you at home taking care of his child?
2006-07-26 10:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Diamond22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is going to have another women's child in his life for the rest of his life, are you willing to commit to this man and child. You are only 20 and to take on a child let alone another women's child is going to be tough. I would leave him and finish school.
2006-07-26 10:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you, he got another girl pregnant. You are young and there is a man out there who will truely love you.
2006-07-26 10:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by KIM A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on your to young to be serious anyway
2006-07-26 10:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by polockpete40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on if he was sleep with other people that mean he don;t care about you and move on with his life
2006-07-26 10:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋