We broke up and had everything split between and signed on a document. Then we had a falling out after I found out she cheated on me during our engagement. We bought alot of things together. She put alot on her credit cards...which I had duplicate cards in my name.....and I paid 85% of the rent.....she covered the other 15% + Utilities. The balance on the cards is like $7,000. The property is in my house and now I'm not going to split anything with her. She can take me to court...but she'll have to prove what she bought...what are my obligations? What can I keep? What can I sell? Please Help.
2006-07-26 02:58:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
In our original agreement, we seperated everything mutually and I agreed to pay her $150/month on the credit cards = to the portional value of items I was keeping. Not to mention....I've been giving her money to pay the bills with each month. But I have no receipt of my payments to her..?!
2006-07-26 03:00:44 · update #1
The stuff isn't her's. I've paid half of the bills for the last 1.5 years.
2006-07-26 03:02:28 · update #2
The stuff she can prove...she didn't want originally and the things she can't prove...that were in my name or bought with cash are the things I was going to mutually seperate.....What are my chances in court? Will I get to keep anything.....or will she get it all?
2006-07-26 03:04:15 · update #3
We agreed to everything..even who keeps the dog. She signed the dog over to me too...(she's the sicko)....I'd give her everything just to be done with her...but what about all the monies I've given her on the stuff that we've purchased on the cards.
2006-07-26 03:06:58 · update #4
You get the ring (usually the largest single asset) unless you were dumb enough to wrap it up as a gift and hand it to her on her birthday or Christmas.
You get everything she left in your house unless she can prove it was hers before the relationship.
You get the dog if she left it behind.
In fact, your primary argument is that everything she left behind was abandoned and that she made no arrangements to pick anything up or have it professionally removed.
The credit cards are going to be difficult for her to prove. She has to prove not only that she purchased items that you retain and that you didn't reimburse her for them, but she'll have to go through item by item and prove that it was never her intent to make each item either a gift or joint property.
If she wanted to, she could take you to court. With the dollar amount involved, you'd both have to hire attorneys. There's not much chance of either of you getting the court to order the other to pay your legal expenses.
In the end, my humble suggestion is that you give her an offer of a dollar amount approximately equal to what the retainer on an attorney would be (say $2000) to sign off on everything (and definitely get that in writing and have your attorney draft it so all bases are covered) and just be done with her.
2006-07-26 03:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by yellow_jellybeans_rock 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty much the same as a divorce. You each get half equally. Including the bills. You might have paid more rent, but did the utilities and her percentage equal the amount of the rent? As for the credit card? If you aren't the one making the payments on the stuff that was charged, then the stuff would automatically be hers. If you want to keep some or all of the things, then you need to be the one to pay for it. Yes, she can take you to court. The court won't care if she cheated because they don't deal with moral or immoral.. they deal with legal responsibility. Sad but true.
Good Luck! and Better Luck next time.
Most likely, she won't get it all. Count yourself lucky you weren't married with children... at least you won't have to support her.
2006-07-26 10:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, keep receipts.
Second, you two are going to have to come up with an agreement or go to court and let a judge decide.
It sounds like you made an agreement and want to change it in light of new evidence about her cheating. You are going to need to get her to agree to the changes or find a mediator.
2006-07-26 10:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay what you have to pay and get out as quickly and smoothly as possible. Don't risk future problems on this, its not worth it. Put a smile on, grit your teeth, bear down and smooth sail through it. Once through the storm, move away to another town/state and let it go and get on with your life.
I speak from experience here. Don't fight it, don't push it, don't aggravate it. Just get through it calmly and then move on. No matter how angry you are, no matter how unfair you think it is, just get through it calmly. Just remember, in the eyes of the law, the man is ALWAYS wrong, no matter what. Don't let it go that far. Just take it as a lesson learned and let it go.
2006-07-26 10:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had proof about the things had done in that house you got to pay half of it! No matter percentage! Youre obligations are to gave her money and things back!
2006-07-26 10:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jerdy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gotta cool down and talk to her about it. I would be prepared to pay everything, just in case she screws you over but try to avoid that just the same.
2006-07-26 10:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your stuff straight cuz she's taking you to court and if you sell her stuff they may make you pay her that money as well.good luck,it's wrong to stick her with the bill and keep the stuff!!!
2006-07-26 10:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by ladyb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your reciepts. The judge will decide.
2006-07-26 10:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by ladychineen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sicko dont sell her stuff give it all back
2006-07-26 10:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋