How can i stop fantasizing about having a baby???/?? im too young?

Question

im 17, my husband is 25, we have been married for 3 yrs (long story, dont ask, and pls dont judge). We love each other with all our heart and soul. We are very happy, I want to start dental hygiene school once i finish my highschool diploma program, but i keep fantasizing about being a mother, i want a baby soo bad, everybody tells me im really mature for my age, i feel like im 30, lol, i spend hours and hours looking over the internet about pregnancy and birth and that kind of stuff, i know im too young, what do you think? what can i do?

We have money, trust me.

Answer 1

Finish school...start your career. Have some fun with your husband. The more education you can get, the better parent you can be when you do decide to have children.

Answer 2

You can take it, and you must. When you have a baby its needs must come first. If you are only 14 there is no way that you could give a baby the best it deserves, which includes a stable family and a mature and capable mother. You would be relying on your own mother to do the lions share of the care, which would be completely unfair on her - she has done her share of baby care already. You would lose some vital school time, and when you returned to school after the birth you would be too tired to concentrate on your work properly. Feeding the child at night would be your responsibility, not your mother's, and young babies often need feeding every three hours through the night. You would probably already have lost vital study time beforehand as it is hard to concentrate when you are pregnant - especially if you suffer from sickness. The poor baby would not have a father - there are enough fatherless little mites already without adding to them. Babies really do best with two parents, though to be fair many single mums manage brilliantly. A baby would be your responsibility - how would you pay for all the things it would need? Again, it would be quite unfair to expect other people to help you out - you need to take full responsibility if it is your child. As we grow there are many things that we really really want, but we have to accept that we can't have them just when we want them. Biological urges are particularly hard to resist, but if you are too weak to resist them you are too immature to deal with the result. Please please do not do this to an innocent child. There is a time for everything, and the time for you to become a mother is hopefully several years away at the very least.

Answer 3

I would never judge the next person. I was 17 and married at the time I had my first child. I was going to school had a job ex...Yet, I thought I need a baby as well. If I could do it all over again I would have waited. Don't get me wrong I love my daughter VERY much yet. There was after the fact so many other things that I did not get to finish. I would talk to your mom and your husband about this because it could be a whole diffrent world for you once you decide to just do it. Good luck hun

Answer 4

being a mother is a wonderful thing. I did the same thing at your age..i couldn't wait until I became a mother. But this is the only time in your life you can be selfish and focus on just you. Being married is enough work. Adding children to any life whether married or not, is a forever decision. You can divorce your husband, but once you are a mother you are always a mother. You are responsible for another human being and you are responsible for who that human being becomes. You need to be more than mature and wealthy..you need to be emotionally ready to raise a child. Everything you are and do will not matter at all once that child is born. You have 20+ years to have a baby. Realize that wanting a baby does not mean you should have one.

Answer 5

Remember, babies grow into adults. Children are a HUGE responsibility. I too got married young, and had children every 3 years it seems. I don't remember much about being young looking back because I was a mommy much too young. Take the time to find yourself before having babies, because once you do, it will no longer be your life. Every ounce of yourself will be poured into this little person who needs you 24/7. Please take time to grow and mature and have fun, and make mistakes, and travel, and persue a career, or do whatever it is that you want to do BEFORE having babies.

Nothing hurts more than looking back with regrets... I was 18 when my husband and I had our first child, now I am 32 with 4 beautiful children, but my life is gone. My best years are all memories of changing diapers, burping babies, being pregnant, instead of the things a young woman of that age should be doing.
Trust me on this... give it time. Let your marriage grow some more. Wait until you are absolutely ready. Money isn't everything. Wait to see what that husband of yours is going to do.

~Good Luck

Answer 6

Try working in a day care for awhile, then see if you still feel the same way. Personally, I think 17 is just too young, too soon to become a parent. Wait until you finish dental hygiene school before you decide to become a parent. At least that way, should the worst ever happen between you and your man, you'll be able to support both you and the baby.

Answer 7

Don't matter if you have money or not...

Dang girl don't you want to live your life to the fullest before even thinking about having kids? Why you so in a hurry?

Well do what Beyonce's sister did, and have one and see how much of a 24/7 job it is. When you feel like partying or going out to a nightclub, you won't be able to. You won't be able to do whatever you want to do anyway because (1) you're married ALREADY and (2) you'll have a little kid to raise...24/7, keep that in mind, 24/7 job, say it over and over again.

If this is what you want to do, then more power to you. May the force be with you and keep hope alive.

Answer 8

do you feel you're too young? You weren't too young to get married so if your husband wants kids, I say go for it!
However, if the reason why your postponing the idea is because of school...i can understand. Once you have a child, it can be hard to get everything done like you can without a child. Its definitely something to think about but ultimately, the decision should be made by you and your spouse and no one else.

Good luck.

Answer 9

You are missing the mother in your life. Something isnt there so you are trying to replace it with a baby. Alot of people do it b/c they think it will complete them. Go to school first. Take my advise and then have a baby when you have a career and money. You will regret having one now and missing out on college and hanging out with friends. You never know you might not be married in another month. Dont count on anything but wait for a baby.

Answer 10

want to sit for my kids for a night ??? not many sitters come back and most claim they are never going to have kids afterwards ! LOL . they are not that bad , but i am use to their quirks .
if you are married discuss the option with your husband . maybe plan at what time you want to get pregnant and things you both would like to do before it happens . like trips , adventures , purchases , that kind of stuff . figure out when you will be able to take those trips ETC you want to do before baby comes , it is easier to finish school before you have children than it is after .
sit and make a long term plan for what to do when . start taking prenatal vitamines about 6 months before you plan to get pregnant and start a healthy routine . completely perpare yourselves .
most important is keep him in the decision making with this .
do i think you are too young? you are married and that choice is yours and your hubbies .
good luck

Answer 11

well... i'm curious about the long story... either way, wait a few more years. you may feel mature, but can you imagine being 30 with a 13 year old! you could be a grand mother before you turn 40! do your schooling, secure a decent job, then have kids. you'll be doing the right thing.