GLBT Community: How much ex-boyfriend/gf talk is TOO MUCH?

Question

If you're dating a guy/girl, what's the appropriate amount of time devote talking about your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend and how happy you were with them? What about details of intimacy? Does it bother you? Why?

Answer 1

Once....for about 5 minutes, is quite enough for me if we're dating.

Anything more than that tells me they aren't over them yet.

Details of intimacy need not enter the conversation while dating.
By dating someone, I'm silently telling them I'm attracted to them.
If they speak of intimacy with their ex while I'm dating them, they're telling me they really aren't that interested in me.

Answer 2

I don't think that there should be any limits. That person was a part of their life before their current partner came along. Putting things off limits just reveals how insecure the new partner is. And I don't believe that bending over backward to cater to an insecure person is ever a good idea. Their insecurity is something they have to deal with, I'm not doing anyone any favors by letting them get away with it. It is not fair for them to ask me to restrict myself because they prefer me to only act how they want and say what they want instead of acting the way I am and saying what I want. Then they are not dating me, they are dating their version of me. F*ck that.

I never bothers me to hear about my gf's exes. It doesn't bother her to hear about mine. Anything is and should be game. It is called honest communication.

Answer 3

Try not to speak AT ALL about ex bf experiences, specially intimacy details. Nobody likes them. Trust me I do it all the time and I hate myself 4 doin' that. I do it cuz in the moment I think I sound cool, but then I realize I can hurt myt partner's feelings.

Answer 4

Well I would say most of this also depends on how long you have been dating. I certainly would say you don't speak about your exes on the first few dates. However, if you have started to progress past the intial dates you will need to talk about them.

These exes are your past, and they would have a right to know something about your past relationship. How well they went, how they broke up.

As for your past sexual experiences same thing goes her. However, remember if you are asked a question and you dn't feel ready to answer it, politely decline. Just know that if you decline now, they may question why. They most likely will ask it again, and next time you will need to answer it.

Answer 5

i'm a Christian, I determine like this. in case you like it that's all that concerns. There are to a lot of human beings attempting to stay somebody else's existence, in this international of proper imperfections. I for one be attentive to i'm no longer qualified, nor of a concepts to choose anybody. My existence if far from proper. I face my very own annoying circumstances accepted. I provide all GLORY toGod. you're able to do regardless of journeys your set off. i'm no longer the choose. i'm a Bible thumper, and rather pleased with it. I determine your unfavourable shoulders could be quite drained, donning the burden of lots hate around for all time.

Answer 6

The topic is appropriate in passing or if it's a two-way conversation, but don't harp on it. It's unrealistic for your partner to never want to hear about your life before they entered it, though.

Answer 7

2 seconds max, and no details.

No man wants to be compared to someone else and if you talk about them we question are they talking about them because they still want them or are they just trying to make me jealous.
Then you come off sounding insecure and clingy.

Answer 8

It's never too much as long as the subject matter is about oil.

Answer 9

it is all in the past so put it there, move forward to your new friend if you don't you will always be talking about your ex because that's all you'll have, ex's.