Just found out that my dear friend's husband cheated & is moving out of their home. They are both good friends, and have a young daughter. What do I say to her? Looking for advice from folks who have been in her shoes--what did you need? Of course I'll offer her all of my support & any help I can give.
2006-07-26 02:48:39 · 7 answers · asked by snap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well i wasnt in her shoes but i have been the 'friend' and from my experience u dont have to 'say' anything....let her do all the talking, cursing, whateva....just be there, be her shoulder to cry on and a listening ear...
2006-07-26 02:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by MsNic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are sorry that she going through this, and if she needs any help, you are there. Also, make an effort to do something concrete for her--like take her out to lunch (with her little one, too), or plan an outing with her--a picnic or something like that.
If she wants to talk about what happened, listen. But don't get into a discussion of it by bringing up what he did. She may find it too painful right now. My guess is she will want to talk about it, and will appreciate your support. Don't ask her what happened, either. That's too personal--my mother went through this, and believe me, she didn't want to share the details.
Some men are just dogs, by the way, and it has NOTHING to do with how their wives behave. If you are friends with both of them, you probably already know if she "drove him away", or if he just has a wandering eye. Sometimes people just grow apart, and one of them meets someone else that they find more attractive. Not very nice when there's a small child involved, however.
I think it's great that you want to be a real friend to her, and not just bash her ex, or blame her.
2006-07-26 03:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard situation I just went through this myself. The best thing you can do is just be there. We as friends cant change anything. We both know her husband is an ***HOLE but if you tell her that ,then that puts you in the middle. If they were to get back together then bad fellings are gonna cause a problem in your friendship. My advice is keep your opinion to yourself and just be a loving friend.
2006-07-26 03:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by mississippi queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can say to her. Just be there for her. Listen to her and give her advice on anything she may ask. I went through this, and I had two friends that were wonderful. They just listened to me most of the time. I was able to call either one at any time of the day or night and they were always there for me.
2006-07-26 02:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a lesson from this one
look into this and see what you did to drive him off and make him cheat on you. make a list and try not to do it again before you get into a new relationship and ruin that one too
2006-07-26 02:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her how sorry you are for her, you tell her you'll be there for her and you back off. Let her decide if she wants advice or if she wants to talk. This is her problem and she should handle it however it works for her.
2006-07-26 02:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth!So easy!
2006-07-26 02:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋