2006-07-26 02:45:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I recommend always explaining why you've made the decision you made. Avoid answers like, "Because I said so" (although I know it'll come out once in a while when they have asked you "Why?" 47,328 times in rapid succession).
2006-07-26 02:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by Cols 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey there... Unfair as opposed to what? Firstly you have to realize that the children do not have a basis other than that of the other parent to form an opinion. You must therefore explain that their actions have reactions. Its really as simple as that. You must explain what they did, what you're doing and why you're doing it. They clearly do not understand your reasoning. You should also tell them how THEY can avoid this situation in future. On the other hand, realize, they are your children and as difficult as they may be I am sure you love them - once in a while cut them some slack...
Also be sure to take into account unforeseen circumstances. You can NOT punish some one for something that was an accident unless if you warned them...
2006-07-26 09:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by Shane M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to meet them half way. How old are your kids? What things are they finding unfair? Growing up, my mom always compromised a bit with us, but she still had the upperhand. Like, when I went out, I had to be home at 11 if I had the car, but if not I could stay out til 1. Or, when I was 17 I wanted to go to New York for my senior trip. I was allowed to go, but I had to write my mom an itinery of where I would be and when and I had to call constantly.--Im from PA. You can't just boss your kids around and expect them to listen. Make sure you are listening to their side too!!
2006-07-26 09:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by stressed college student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teach them the basic rules of growing up, good boys and girls are rewarded and bad deeds are punished.
If you have two or more kids, they might be facing sibling rivalry for some reasons: they notice that you have a favorite or your spouse has a favorite.
One way to prevent sibling rivalry or stopping them from calling you unfair is taking one on one talk with your kid so they may understand and that when you talk to them as individuals and not addres them as a group, they will appreciate your effort in handling things the parent way.
2006-07-26 09:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by purplemayo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you can do is impress on them that are levels of fairness in life - sometimes things will feel more fair than others but the bald fact is that life is not fair and you're doing them a diservice if they don't learn that now.
2006-07-26 09:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask to see the certificate of fairness that guarantees them that everything will be fair.
Reality/Life isn't fair, none the less you should try and treat your children fairly and expect them to treat others fairly
2006-07-26 09:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids don't understand why you would say no to them... they just want what they want and they want it now. discipline is an important part of raising a child. stay firm and stand your ground. you are the parent.
2006-07-26 09:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by gummi bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them if I do something wrong I will get punish as well
sorry that the rules
2006-07-26 09:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply because they don't get it their way.Listen to them, hear what they have to say about it,discuss with them and share them what you think about those issues concerned and then,compromise.You'll earn your respect and they'll get wiser in how to deal with daily problems we encounter everyday in our lives regardless of age & gender.
2006-07-26 09:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by cascadingrainbows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them its just the way life is....
2006-07-26 09:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Karli L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋