Ok im 17 will be 18 in september. And I want to get pregnant. I have a car and job so and I know im ready. but the guy im with doesnt want it at least thats what I think well im pretty sure he doesnt. but I dont want to get someone new what do I do?
2006-07-26 02:45:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I have finished high school. And yes I am financially stabled my dad owns a business and we are ritch and my parents know im trying and are ok with it and said they will support us and get me and my bf a place to live so yall just hating on me im an adult Im ready.
2006-07-26 02:54:37 · update #1
Why don't you talk to your boyfriend about why he isn't ready? If you want to convince him that now is the time, put together everything you would need to show him that the two of you can handle it. Come up with a reasonable budget, including how you will pay for daycare, diapers, food, baby furniture, etc. Also, plan out how a week would go in terms of when you would be at home, or have a babysitter and when you would work. If you shift your schedules so you work mostly early morning (say 6am to 2pm) and he works mostly later (say 10am to 6pm), you can minimize the amount of time your child will have to spend in day care. Of course, these types of schedules are not possible for everyone, and if they are not and you both work, your child will have to spend a significant chunk of time with someone other than the two of you. Show him how it will impact his life, and how much you will expect him to contribute financially, and time-wise. The only way you can convince him is to show that it is not just an emotional issue, but you have logically considered how it will affect your lives and that it will work out for both of you. Doing this will also be a good practice for you to make sure you know what is coming if you do have a baby. Have your parents help out with the planning since they are supportive and have had a child before and can be an invaluable resource. I hope you and your boyfriend come up with the right decision for the two of you.
2006-07-26 05:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cara B 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Honey, please, please don't. I was the same way. I got pregnant at 17 had my son at 18. They guy I was with wanted a baby too. I had a car, a good job and so did he. We are still together, married for 3 years together for 7. Unfortunately if I could go back and do it over I would. I don't regret my children ( I also have 2 daughters). I'm not happy with my life right now. My husband and I are only together for the children. Well I don't feel that he is the ONE but if I hadn't trapped myself and him with a child. I could have done so much more with my life. I am successfull for being 23 w/ 3 kids. I have a nice house, vehicles and a good job. However I missed out on so much. I never had the opportunity to be me and figure out what I wanted to do because it wasn't about me anymore after I had children. They are your life. Are you ready to dedicate 24/7 to a child? Are you ready to support that baby, doctor visits are expensive, clothes, toys, food. Honey please think it over. Yes children are great but you if you could wait even 2 or 3 more years before having a baby I think you would be better off. Enjoy not having to go to school everyday, life, and freedom for a bit before you bring a child into this world.
Best of luck.
2006-07-26 09:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by a.kranz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Grow up a little more first. You say you have a car and a job. Do you have a home? And I don't mean your parent's house. If the guy doesn't want it, don't force the issue. If you want him, wait a while. You have all the time in the world.
Are you still in school? If so, don't screw that up. You'll need your education. If you had a kid and no education, you'll never have a good future. You'll resent the kid. You're just not in the right place in your life for a baby.
Wait.
2006-07-26 09:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your question alone I can tell you aren't ready for this typre of responsibility. you have a job and a car so you are ready to be a parent? Where was that on the requirements list? Take a part-time job at a child care facility for a few months and then get back to us. See if your still ready then. In the mean time, grow up.
2006-07-26 09:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by rahkokwee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you plan on going to college?? i would say that 18 would be alittle to young but i got pregnant with my daughter at 20 but i was also planning a wedding got married 4 months after we found out that i was pregnant( we were alreadly in the middle of planning the wedding before we found out) I was in college at the time that I was pregnant and it was VERY HARD!!! I was majoring in Nursing and I was in school for 13 hours a day 3 days a weeks and also worked full time and it was VERY hard on me and my child...also alot of my friends stopped talking to me because i had a child now and i couldnt stay out all night and party...so you should think about what you want to do after high school then plan a child when you will be able to. YOu got plenty of time
2006-07-26 11:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my experience I was 17 by the time I had my first child. I had all that to. Yet I was married as well. He did not want a child neither. I would NEVER say go for it because as a single parent it more more than what you could imagine at that age. I KNOW. You may want to talk to your parents about this as well. You will need LOTS a support if he leaves you over it. Good luck!
2006-07-26 09:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until youre married, you just 17, dont ruin your life getting pregnant too early, you have to b able to support yourself, you think that is going to solve things? you arent even grown yet, u really wanna complicate things before youre ready? why do you want to get pregnant? so you can feel loved? so you can feel more responiblility? having kids is not something to think lightly about? why do you want a kid now? you are just a kid yourself, get your education first, education is most important, kids are expensive, why do you want to complicate things now? just bc u have a car and a job doesnt mean u are ready, do u wanna quit just to take care of the baby? wait until you are married and in love with the guy and he loves you respects you, you will know when the time is right, now is not the time, u dont want stds or anything. dont have sex before you are ready to for more responsilibility, do you want to travel, have fun be with your friends? dont do it!
2006-07-26 09:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by dark^wishy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you probly don't want to hear this but wait.... Your still a little to young... don't get me wrong it can be done but it's hard i know from exprence. Espesically if you think his not ready cause it's even harder without someone to help you with the baby. just wait live your life for a while. Your at the age where you can start going to cubs and taking trips and with a baby you can't do all of that stuff very easy.
2006-07-26 09:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by liyyle country gril 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not an adult an adult is smart enough to know how to take care of themselves you rely on your parents to take care of you sure you may have a job but that will not pay the daycare you are still young have fun trust me i had my son when i was just 19 and while i had to stay at home and take care of a child my husband gets to go out and do things just think about it before you just go out and get pregnant it really does take away all of your freedom and it is nothing like babysitting someones kids it is a WHOLE LOT DIFFERENT
2006-07-26 10:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why rush it are you that stable things come up do you have insurance maybe the guy is thinking with the right head don't rush it when kids come things get crazy a good crazy but still crazy i not trying to be mean but your 17 enjoy your life you have plenty of time for babies i know that is not easy to hear when you want something so bad i am 29 and my husband and i have been trying to have a baby for four years
2006-07-26 09:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋