I am referring to a situation where the husband is very abusive, irresponsible, selfish and cruel.
2006-07-26 02:43:24 · 37 answers · asked by Ines 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES! Get out of that marriage as soon as possible. I'm sure God would much rather you and your children were safe and happy than subjected to this blokes abuse. I know that Cathlicism isn't as understanding about divorce as this but I am Church of England and believe that you HAVE to get out of this marriage.
In a Christian marriage the bloke promises to love and cherish, I think these actions show he has broken the promises made in the eyes of God, therefore you can leave with no black marks against you.
2006-07-26 02:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by ehc11 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to divorce the person who is abusive since it is not God's intention to have anyone in an abusive relationship and also since it is a sickness, that if untreated will continue because it becomes an abusive cycle. Divorce is not permitted in the case when people state, we fell out of love, there probably was no love in the first place, but that is the decision that the two made prior to finding out they weren't compatible, that is why it is important to always get to know the person as well as you can first, then marry, not rush into it because of infatuation or lust.
2006-07-26 02:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by Perhaps I love you more 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is deemed an quite severe determination. Abuse is likewise very severe. Being unequally yoked and perchance no longer even responsive to it til later is the biggest situation in Christian marriages. Such an significant determination is oftentimes taken gently with the aid of fact of a feeling and God instructions to be responsive to the non secular situation of your fiancee a hundred%. Love is blind, even for Christians with their eyes extensive open. Seperation and reconciliation are of maximum importance with the aid of fact this is with the aid of fact the Lord loves his church people. Christians are allowed to do something and not allowed to do something. we choose for what we do and benefit from the advantages or bear the punishments. Then we bypass to heaven. So each and each could come to a determination if counseling or God saving the abuser could make it helpful to reconcile. a short seperation shouldn't lead to divorce with the aid of fact marriage is a severe dedication in the previous God and guy. Our Godless society has no fault divorce and makes it worry-free, God expects extra. ultimately, after a protracted war and much affliction (no longer actual!) a divorce could be what must be finished.
2016-10-08 08:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by rotanelli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From ANY perspective it is the best thing to do; even Gods law doesnt allow women and children to be shamefully and cruelly treated. The thing to do is just get the kids and walk out. Go straight to your local social services office and they will find you secure accommodation in a refuge. They are very helpful, and will help you with moving to wherever, and finding furniture and benefits to live on until the situation is sorted out. Dont wait, and suffer, until your kids are mentally scarred; the next time he leaves the house, just GO> Bless and keep you.
2006-07-26 11:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is alright to divorce it even says it in the bible
Although some faiths are totally against divorce often the bible is not being interpreted in the context that god also protects those in marriages and who are not living under his laws for righteous living. They are several passages relating to this in the bible but I do not know from what chapters they can be read. I have read them in the past and I know that there is a web site relating to this issue that will guide you to the relevant passages.
God does not want anyone to live in such a relationship or one that is not surrounded by love. Yes even the bible tells us that not all marriages are meant to last.
2006-07-26 06:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...stay around and see if he kills you or your children! Come on honey....... If God gets upset because you are leaving a bastard that puts you and your kids in danger...then screw him. Would you really want to worship a God like that???? If so, then you might want to seek some professional help.
You don't stand in front of a mack truck just to find out if God will save you or not.
I am not trying to be ugly...I feel for you and wish you all the best, but man, it upsets me to think that you have been told that if you leave him God might hate you or something. That should not even cross your mind. Your children should be the only thing you are thinking about when you walk out that door!
I would take care of my kids at any cost....so if that meant I would spen eternity in "hell" because I left my abusive husband.....well, I guess I would be shaking hands with the devil himself.
2006-07-26 03:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you aren't a devout Christian. Of course divorce, for ANYreason, is wrong and it is a sin. The Bible says so and does not make any exceptions. If God wanted to make exceptions, he would have inspired the authors of the Bible to include them, but he DIDN'T. So Clearly divorce is evil in the eyes of God.
Now, doesn't that sound ridiculous? If you need someone to give you an answer to the question, you are truly lost (regardless of how "saved" you think you are. I hope you're smart enough to figure this one out, not for your sake, but for that of your children.
2006-07-26 10:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by The Answer Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a Christian point, I believe it is only right to divorce in the circumstance s that 1. it affects your spiritual relationship with Jehovah 2. if one commits adualtery 3. if your life is in danger
2006-07-26 02:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by babejules2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are being abused, you have every right to get out of this situation, and immediately. God did not make you to be a punching bag for your husband, or anybody else as far as that goes. You deserve better, your kids deserve better, and he deserves to be in jail. Divorce him immediately!! Good Luck!
2006-07-26 02:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God hates divorce.. But let me explain this.
The Word of God says: " What God put together, Let no man put assunder." The question is, did God put you together? I believe God has a sole mate for everyone. He created someone for you. Just as he created Eve for Adam. But often to many of us get in a hurry to find that mate, that we look for them ourselves instead of waiting on God. As a christian is it alright for you to divorce a man that is beating you and your kids. Here is what I would do. Get out.. Go somewhere you and your kids will be safe. Continue to serve God and asking him to touch your husband and to take this anger way from him. Keep praying. Ask God to give you strength to get through this, then after a waiting period if things have not changed, maybe God is telling you in your heart that this is not who I created for you. Then get a divorce.
I will pray for you and your children.
God Bless
2006-07-26 02:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Henry T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋