She has a family of 4 . . .
2 teenage sons, one being in the upper secondary who is doing ok,
the other one out on bail for drug related offence and will be on trial soon,
the husband who is jobless and scolds her and quarrels with her almost everyday, has an affair with a Chinese National lady. Brings her home for the wife to see and is intending to celebrate the wife’s birthday and bringing her ( the girl ) along by his side.
the wife having trouble with the younger son, marriage and with hubby is feeling revengeful with husband, is having casual intimate encounters with almost every man she meets that agrees. Also introducing the men she meets to hubby.
What help does she needs to stop her revengeful acts that’ll ultimately hurt her physically and emotionally?
2006-07-26 02:39:29 · 9 answers · asked by superyoyogirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She needs to get a divorce and move on with her life. Her self esteem has been blown by this man. I would have a heart to heart with her and explain the only person she is truly hurting is herself by her actions. Let alone the possibility of catching a STD or even worse one of these one night stands could kill her. Please be a good friend and help her get through it.
2006-07-26 02:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is one story with one complication after another. my advice:
1. talk to the kids (their problems, their feelings, their lives).
2. decide with her kids on a possible divorce.
3. dump the fuckng guy! HE IS AN ASSHOLE!
4. get a job.
5. live a clean life after the separation.
6. make a thorough study on whether having a second husband or not.
7. consult her kids about it.
life is simple... you get up in the morning, you make each day better than yesterday, do good deeds, enjoy life with your love ones.
life is complicated... environment, people, situations, emotions, etc. these make life the worst thing in this world.
you can never live this life without a problem. you don't have any choice but to face them and try to do something about it so it would give you a better perspective in life and maybe better options to take in the future.
if you would only learn how to deal with these things, you would be assured of maybe not the best... but a better life.
face it, study, deal with it, pick up the pieces, and move on.
that's life!
2006-07-26 10:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think if I looked up dysfunctional in the dictionary I'd see their family picture next to the definition...This begins and should end with the parents behavior...two wrongs do not make it right and their example of such weak integrity and family morals definitely paints a twisted future for their children...They need professional help to guide them back to making healthy choices for themselves and for their family...I don't see it happening as a family but hopefully it will provide the knowledge for those in the family that want more out of their life then what they are experiencing now.
2006-07-26 09:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This couple has their own sick little world, and it would be best for you to get as far away from them as possible.
If either one of them truly did not want to continue with this twisted behavior, they would stop. On some level, they enjoy it.
Unless someone thinks they have a problem, they aren't going to be open to getting help. I'm sure both of these people are convinced that it is the other one who has the problem.
2006-07-26 09:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are multiple issues here : social, marriage, legal, anger management and iminent family breakdown.
How will it be fixed?
When the family are ready they need family based counselling, and sooner rather that later.
Peter
2006-07-26 09:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Jojo
2006-07-26 09:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by redheadedmess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should both damn well grow up and see what it is doing to the kids..pair of drop kicks they are..
2006-07-26 09:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wtf? wow. well first off they should get a divorce.....they are obviously too immature for marriage...w/. the son i would btich slap his asss....they 110% DO NOT get a parent award.....by the way they are acting obviously affects the son.....why do you think he's doing drugs!?!?! wow what a fcuked up family
2006-07-26 09:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by couturechic17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's awful long question ,time constraints...................sorry
2006-07-26 09:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by mobi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋