I went out of town for business for two days and when I returned tonight I checked out the hubbies cell phone calls online and found he had called a cell phone number 34 times in 24 hours. It is a number I have never seen and about 30 of those calls were made between midnight and 6 a.m. and they were about 20 minutes apart. I am shaking mad because my suspicions have been up lately about his behavior. Feel free to reference my previous questions to aid in your opinion on this matter. He is a perpetual liar and have had serious trust issues for the last several months. This is obvious b/c why else would I be checking out his calls. He does not know that I do that and before I confront him about it, I would like to know what you guys and gals think is going on. He told me he did nothing while I was gone but have a few beers with a friend but when I casually ask him anything else he gets really defensive. What do you think is going on and what should I do next? Thanks!
2006-07-26 02:37:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am going to call the number today at work tomorrow b/c it shows up as unlisted. What should I think if a guy answers? And what kind of man would talk to another man with that kind of frequency at those hours? It would be different if he told me that one of his buddies was having serious issues and needed to talk to him but he acts as though nothing eventful went on during the time I was gone. I have posted this question before but I am trying to get as much feedback as possible.
2006-07-26 02:39:27 · update #1
If he's a perpetual liar, I don't think a confrontation with the factsis going to be of much help. I would tell him that you are tired of playing this game. That you will not argue with him about whether he did this or that. But that your marriage is in serious trouble and you need to see: a major change in his behavior (no more incongruent stories,) marriage counseling, honesty, etc. It's a do or die ultimatum, but seriously, what have you got to lose at this point?
2006-07-26 02:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by hiddenhotty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately he's either seeing another woman or he's gay and sleeping with this so called "friend". There's no other reason to have 34 calls to one number in a 24 hour period. He was taking advantage of you being away. If you're having suspicions to the point that you feel the need to check his cell records, I think you already know it's time to leave. Don't let him turn you into a spying and insecure woman. Leave him and be the strong person you were born to be. Good luck!!
2006-07-26 02:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by krs1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is the first intelligent and well written question here ever! The fact that you have trust issues should be enough of an indicatiion that your relationship may be in trouble. As far as the phone calls, you can always call the number yourself just to see who answers. Then, the best thing to do is deman an answer from him and if none is forthcoming, either make an attempt at marriage therapy. If not, it may be time to move on.
2006-07-26 02:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the fact that you should call the number and see who it is. If he is a perpetual liar and he's gone so far as to take the trust you had for him away, then it may be time to move on. There may be no fixing it unless you are devoted to doing so and he's willing to change his ways. Good luck and always follow your instinct
2006-07-26 02:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call the number and when the person answers tell them who you are. Be up front. Tell them you got his/her number from your husband's cell phone and saw that he was calling so much on that one particular night. Ask what is going on? He is your husband and if he won't give you the answers then you find out yourself. He is going to be upset, but aren't you upset now? You haven't been trusting him lately, and let me tell you, sweetie, don't be a fool, follow your instincts. Don't ignore them.
2006-07-26 02:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't take a genius to figure this one out. He is obviously a liar, and a cheat. Why are you still with him, is what I would like to know? Do you realize the damage you are doing to your mind, heart, and body by continuing to live there? You are young, and your body can handle it now, but as you get older, it will tear you down. Life is too short for the kind of abuse you are allowing him to do to you.Leave him!
2006-07-26 02:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the number from your home phone... the person on the other line will suspect something if he or she would see an unlisted number calling his or her phone.
well, you don't need to talk to the person on the other end of the line.
good luck!
2006-07-26 03:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Ross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do a reverse number look up first... then go from there....
Whoever answers just ask who it is and tell them your name and tell them you were wondering why your number came up on your bill... then you should tell if there are any suspicions is it's a woman and she hangs up.
I definetly suggest asking to your husband about it ASAP! & get to the bottom of it.
2006-07-26 02:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well good luck. I think when you try that number it will be a girl. If it is a guy than he is gay. I would be pissed if I were you. why wouldn't he delete that stuff. Maybe he wants you to find out
2006-07-26 02:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by flowersandhearts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what i think you should do....when you call the # ....if a girl answers ask who it is and get info on her.....if it is not a girl you should still get inf....make sure that before you go and talk to him you got all the evedince that you need to know that he is lying...girl i think you should check and see if he is cheating on you because you know how guys are these days....i wish you all of luck...
2006-07-26 02:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋