I live in the United States and my husband and I are adopting a child from another country. I was wondering if there was anyone here that was adopted in the United States, but was born in another country? If you were an older child during the adoption, how did you adjust? What made it easier on you? Do you like to know things about your birth country and culture?
And PLEASE America, don't tell me there are children in the US that need homes too. I completely understand the need of our children here at home. More than I could ever explain on Yahoo Answers. It's a long heartbreaking story as to why we ended up adopting out of country...but let's just say once we made the decision we new it was RIGHT for us!
2006-07-26 02:25:49 · 3 answers · asked by guatemama 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My wife and I are in the process to adopt our 2nd child from overseas. I understand, totally.
We're hoping to adopt from the same orphanage as our first daughter. Our 2nd daughter will hopefully be anywhere from 3 to 5 years old.
We've talked to a lot of adoptive parents who have said that they've had good luck with the children adapting to our culture. Sure, English is hard to learn but compared to some other languages it's actually a breeze.
My parents adopted my younger sister (granted it was a domestic adoption). They never hid the truth from her. If anything, I was under the threat of punishment for making any differences between her and me.
We've raised our first daughter with an appreciation of her native country. It's funny that I can tell she can be anything she wants in the world except for US president. Just because she spent her first 18 months in the far away land of China.
My suggestion is to hit the Yahoo groups for people in a similar situation as you. Find a group for children from that country. If you're adopting from China, there's groups out there but after you find out the orphanage there are specific groups for basically each orphanage.
Faith and courage. You're doing the right thing. Find people in the same boat. Unfortunantly, the Answers section isn't it.
2006-07-28 08:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by sir_galahad_ks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I reply this, I'd love to state that I am NOT an knowledgeable on worldwide adoptions so take this as my opinion most effective. I could strongly advocate you investigate with an adoption lawyer who focuses on worldwide adoptions earlier than taking my or anybody else's recommendation. a million) I'm certain you do not desire to attend 10 years to undertake, so are you able to opt for a nation that does not have an age 35 requirement? two) The adoption homestudy could be a very intrusive procedure asking a wide variety of questions involving your courting historical past and strategies involving sexual family members. If you opt for to overlook the truth that you're homosexual, I'd advocate you take a little time to train your solutions in order that they sound actual and ordinary. I do not believe making use of as a heterosexual unmarried after which later admitting you're in a homosexual courting is that giant of a crisis given that a few homosexuals do not wholly observe their homosexuality till later in lifestyles. It could be intricate to turn out that you just lied. I could recommend you wait till a couple of years after the adoption is finalized earlier than you provoke the moment dad or mum adoption. However, if it had been me, I could be a lot more cozy simply determining a nation in which homosexuality used to be now not an predicament. Going via the adoption procedure may be very emotionally difficult even underneath the nice of instances. I are not able to think how intricate it could be underneath the load of a mystery like this. three) This is one other factor that's very intricate to turn out. I could haven't any crisis with mendacity approximately my religion if it extended my possibilities of adoption. In reality, while I used to be going via the homestudy procedure for foster care adoption, I did suggest that I used to be a devout character while I am fairly an Atheist for the reason that I knew my social employee used to be very devout and feared she could pass judgement on me negatively if she knew the reality. Many humans's religion and devout ideals difference for the duration of their lifestyles, so it could be intricate to turn out that you just lied at the software and simply did not difference your brain approximately your ideals. four) This is a giant one! I could now not threat this for the reason that it's greater than somewhat white lie; it's out-and-out fraud. I could by no means be competent to quit demanding that the baby might be taken away if the reality got here out.
2016-08-28 17:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey
It is a good idean to adopt.
Kids r kids. But decision is urs
I will add my 2 cents " bring the kid from country where they have math skills" Chances that u will be happy later will be high
2006-07-26 02:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by snow l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋