Why does it seem that jealousy inters in a marriage if you already have kids and why.?

Question

I have a daughter living at home and i remarried 3 years ago to a lady without kids,my daughter fenished high school and went on to nursing school and is getting married soon and will have her own home but my wife can't stand my daughter she even tried to fight her ,but she will be gone in 2 months but my wife couldn't wate,so got a divorce sold the house and she lives with her father and my daughter lives with me for a couple more months until her wedding.I'm 54 my x-wife is 40. my daughter is now 20,Why does jelousy have to ruin a relationship.Why are women threatened by stepchildren,i raised 2 step sons and a step daughter and i love them as much as my blood daughter. I don't like the thought of growing old alone but it can't be helped,I'm not marring anymore.

Answer 1

sounds like your ex is a very petty and self absorbed woman.She was jealous because your daughter was doing good and was making something out of her life.Maybe she was jealous of the fact that you as a father suported your daughter in what she did or she may have thought the daughter was getting to much attention from you and taking that attention off her.Your ex wife dosent sound like a very nice person to try and fight her step daughter Im glad you seen the light and threw her to the curb.Sounds like she is truly the wicked step mother.You dont have to be alone you dont have to remarry.There are plenty of women out there that dosent have your wifes disposition

Answer 2

Sounds like your wife was very immature. I am a step mother and I had my stepson and stepdaughter live with me and my husband for several years. Sometimes it got a little hectic because the children got jealous of our relationship, which was a wonderful one, and I guess they wanted more attention from their dad. What I did was, I got closer to them. I treated them as my own. I gave them advice as the grew up, and I was also a disciplinarian when I had to be. I wouldn't let them walk all over me.

Throughout this whole time, though, my husband backed me up. He and I would discuss certain things about the children. He had two before we married and he and I ended up have two more. The youngest wasn't there most of this time, because they are all much older than he is. They are all adults now and to this day, they come to me for advice. Sometimes they call and ask for me before they talk with their dad.

My suspicion is that maybe you were not backing up your wife. You weren't a team when it came to your daughter. You have to realize, children have a way of putting one parent against the other just to get their way. She may have been doing this, but since she's your little princess, you couldn't see it.

You can't change the past, so just try to move on now. Keep yourself active. Go out, do the things you enjoy doing and I am sure you will meet someone who will share the rest of your life with you. There is someone for everyone.

Good luck, and God bless.

Answer 3

Sounds like she has some insecure issues that were unresolved before she closed the door to your heart... I am sure you ask yourself.. Did I spend enough time with her ? Did I shower then both with my love, attention and understanding ?

Not all women are like that, but it seems like she deemed your daughter as getting all your attention and couldn't handle it... you are way better off without her...

You will find someone again... just don't be in a hurry to marry next time... it's your ex's loss that she couldn't wait 2 more months for you daughter to be out on her own... no patience I guess...

Answer 4

hey man... don't punish yourself!! remarry again! believe me, you will be miserable for the rest of your twilight years. i got a lot of aunts and uncles who died living a gloomy endlife. why? they were alone.
you cannot expect your daughter's family to be with you until your endyears. it is a very different thing when you talk to your daughter against talking to your wife... the topic would not be the same, the feeling would not be the same, the laughter will not be the same, and touch will definitely not be the same.
but before doing it, check out first your wife-to-be, and consult your daughter for this matter. your daughter can help you out straighten your concern with regards to having another wife. and by this, you would have a better chance of having a harmonious family with a new wife beside you.
good luck man!!