I'm 24 years old and living with my parents. They disapprove of my boyfriend and want us to break up. Is that a reasonable demand?
2006-07-26 02:22:29 · 12 answers · asked by flipper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's reasonable that they tell you how they feel about your relationship, but they shouldn't force their views any farther then that.
On the other hand, ask yourself why they feel this strongly about your relationship that they feel the need to tell you. Is this something you can discuss with them, or do you need to reexamine the guy you're with?
Good luck!
2006-07-26 02:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being in a fathers position, I have 3 grown children 2 married & 1 soon to be also 24. I found that i was a pretty good judge of my childrens spouses'. If your parents disaprove. I would ask why, then listen. It could actually save you misery down the road. I have a daughter married to a control freak & he has never held a job more than 1 - 2 years. I have a son married to a woman who "if i'm not happy, nobody is" & I want everything now. I would much rather see them single than married to these individuals, but they made their choice & at times regret it. My children looking back have said more than once I was right about their spouses & wish they would have listened, but they were blinded by "LOVE". My best advise is look at the big picture. Your life & his do they match? Is he controlling or demanding? Is he abusive physical, verbal or mentally? Does he give you space, & trust you to be alone with your friends? Is he finacially stable? Can he support you without outside help? (Your parents or his parents).
2006-07-26 02:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by oilfieldinsultant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reasonable ? Well since you didn't give us any reason as to why they feel the way they do about him, I am going to pretend he is almost perfect for you and that you are in love... then no it is not reasonable... I would say at 24 your old enough to go out on your own and make your own dicisions.. now if he is abusive in any way or not good for you then I would say that yes it is reasonable, because they see it as hurting their baby. (It's the whole protect our daughter thing). Try to understand where your parents are coming from... maybe talk with them about it too.
2006-07-26 02:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 24 yrs old do what you want in your personal life. but you do live under your parents roof so you have to listen a little.. maybe you should look into why they may see that leaving him is the best thing for you.. parents tend to see things from outside of the box and want whats best for us..
2006-07-26 02:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a way it is... it's their house their rules....but you are 24 so your parents now should only suggest things and not have control over your life. but i have problems with parents telling me what to do... so i moved out when i was 15. so to me even if you were under 18 that is not a reasonable demand to me, it's disrespectful to your individuality, and demeaning to your intellegents , and ability to make right and wrong choices in your life, and a bit controlling on their part, personally.
2006-07-26 02:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thad depends on why they disapprove of him.
If it's a good reason (he's into drugs, has a bad criminal record, he can't hold a job, etc) then you might want to put some thought into it.
If it's not a good reason (they don't like his tatoos, he comes from a bad family, he doesn't make enough money, etc.) then its not reasonable at all.
As a rule, listen to what your folks have to say, take it into consideration, try to look at things from their standpoint, but don't let them rule your life.
2006-07-26 02:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by nobodysangel_nobodysfool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 24 then you shouldn't have to let them approve of your boyfriend. You are plenty old enough to make your own decisions. You should stay with him if you love him and that is what you want.
2006-07-26 02:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents care for you, thats wonderful.
What have they told you about their concerns? Listen to them.
They may be right or wrong, parents know a few things.
If you think your parents have some valid grounds, you might even do as they ask.
Peter
2006-07-26 02:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents just wants what's best for their kids, and i think if you guys really love each other and know that it's going to work out then your parents should be happy that your happy.
2006-07-26 02:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by shabana0903 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are old enough to be with any guy that you want....but maybe they see something that you do not...I LEARNED the hard way....
so hear them out and listen to why they do not like him and the decide what you want to do...
*good luck
2006-07-26 02:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by dumbass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋