2006-07-26 02:20:52 · 19 answers · asked by sduhbls 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I believe as the years roll by its becoming so mis-understood. People accept marriage to light heartedly, they don't realize the ultimate commitment their promising each other..We live in a world that is changing so fast that such changes of culture, economics and traditions are fading away...Marriage s/b everlasting...it s/b a test of ones own integrity and devotion to those they love most...It s/b well thought out, planned and executed by the words spoken to each other during a marriage ceremony..but not today...you can have a drive though marriage and if it doesn't work then just split and try it again with someone else next month...that sort of behavior is making a mockery of such an institution and is being steadily replaced by living together.
2006-07-26 02:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The trouble with marriage is that society is changing and for an institution to survive it must change as well. People are pointing to Leave it to Beaver, Happy Days, and Ozzie and Harriet and saying that is what marriage is supposed to be. As someone who grew up int 50s and 60s I'm here to tell you it wasn't ever like that, at least not in any family I ever knew. Marriage is a never ending series of sacrifices and compromises, making one work is the task of a lifetime, that is what "for better or worse" is all about. In a world of planned obsolescence, it has become an automatic reaction to replace something when something better comes along. New car, new computer, new television, new spouse, when a relationship hits it's first rocky period one or both people involved frequently find it easier to opt out and re-market themselves. Marriage makes that more difficult, hence the trend of living together instead. Traditional marriage was built on the assumption that a woman could not survive on her own, that a man was required so that she and her children would have a provider. Most women no longer accept that, so the need for a spouse as part of a social survival net is going away. The opposition to gay marriage is also working against the institution, if people who want to marry can't, why should people who don't? The law defines marriage according to Biblical principle, as people reject those teaching in ever increasing numbers, institutions based on them go as well. Until we, as a society, understand and accept this, marriage is just going to be one of the things that goes.
2006-07-26 02:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by rich k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think marriage is an outdated institution, but I do think that just dating and living seperately before marriage is going the way of the dinosaur. Living together before marriage is becoming an accepted way of getting to know the "real" person in real living situations before tying the knot. Two people may love each other greatly but it often turns out that they can't Live with them. So, living together before marriage is a great way to test the waters, so to speak.
2006-07-26 02:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by gdt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope not.
I mean, there's lots of evidence that marriages are destined to fail (what like 50%?), but for everyone of those, there are lots of little old men and ladies who are still married after 50+ years. Those are my role models, and they all offer the same advice. Love and respect the person you marry, and it'll last a lifetime.
2006-07-26 02:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, marriage is not outdated, although i am living with my partner at the moment, we will get married in 2007 ... I don`t regret living with him first.
2006-07-26 02:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's outdated. I've been to several weddings this year and last. I think it is a beautiful thing. Living together is such a cop out
2006-07-26 02:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question, I don't know, but more of my friends are certainly living together than married. I'm holding out for marriage myself.
2006-07-26 02:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. No.
I love being married and it is important to me. We lived together before marriage but it doesn't work out for everyone.
2006-07-26 02:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you came from a poor country, you find girls running for money... love become superficial... a life full of lies and cheat. If not or you had some cash, you could married but you had another problem: Guys run for your money! You decide the answer!
2006-07-26 02:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's just that more and more couples are taking their time and living together first and usually for a while before taking the plunge
2006-07-26 02:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋