I'm in college now, but when I was in high school, I fell in love with a guy in my class. I made it pretty obvious how I felt about him, even though not many people thought he was attractive. He was nice to me, but never asked me out. Recently he came out as gay, and I am completely mortified that I threw myself at him like that. Not because I'm ashamed that I liked him (he's witty, smart, and creative) but because I know I must have gotten on his nerves so badly with my blatant crush. We're not in touch, so I can't discuss this with him. Have any of you had a straight girl get a heavy crush on you and how did you feel about it?
2006-07-26 02:16:28 · 7 answers · asked by sussexgirl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
don't feel bad - he should & should have told you then if he was all that.
2006-07-28 18:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by weaver2sl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry over it. He was probably flattered.
In a way you are kind of lucky he never acted on it. He could have tried to force him self into "thinking" he was attracted to you - and maybe even done the deed - so that he could try to convince himself and everyone else that he was really straight.
Anyway - he was probably playing himself off as straight. Some gay guys are really good at this. Gays know all about living double lives. How were you supposed to know he was that good of an actor?
You might become friends. He may feel guilty for not being able to tell you how he really felt. If such a friendship happens you will be blessed. You will have someone that can tell you many things about men, who you can go dirty dancing with, cuddle with - but who will never try to get in your pants and who will just like you for who you are.
2006-07-26 02:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is flattering that you found him attractive, whether it was physical, mental, emotional aspects that drew you to him, he should feel complimented.
It is not much different than the way I think a straight man should feel if he is discreetly and sensibly approached by a gay man. If once the gay guy realizes that he had guessed wrong and that the other man is not gay he lets it go, it was a compliment in the first place that the gay man found the other guy to be attractive in some or more than one way.
2006-07-26 02:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably helped him since obviously he was obvioulsy trying to come off as straight. Having a girl with a crush on him made people not suspect it as much probably. It can be hard to tell if a guy is gay or not. I dated a guy that was and I didn't know, but at least that guy didn't try to force himself to be with a girl. It's flattering if anyone gets a crush on you, even if you don't like them, as you might have experienced. So it's similar to that in a way.
2006-07-26 21:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by eveofhyrule 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry about it. He was more than likely flattered. I once had an extremely good looking guy hit on me and I was deep in denial about my being bisexual but I remember I was extremely flattered about it. I thought to myself "hey if I went that way then I know I could have me some of that."
LOL
Now that I am positive of my orientation where is that great looking guy?
LOL
2006-07-26 02:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mortified. If he just came out, he was probably flattered by your attention and probably as confused as you were (as to why he wouldn't ask you out). If you guys were still in touch, you probably would become good friends at some point.
2006-07-26 02:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by buldawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just found it flattering at high school!
why not go on friends reunited and see if he is around
im sure you 2 will be friends
2006-07-26 02:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋