my girlfriend of 3 years wants a break from me, yet we have just moved into our own home and its the start of something great she doesnt want it any more just saying she needs time and space. im so gutted i really love her very much and want it to work i really want her to see im seriouse about her and us i want us to be proud of what we are
2006-07-26 02:08:19 · 9 answers · asked by donna.horlock@btopenworld.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should know that this is my first gay relationship and i am 27 i fell in love with her very quickly and still want her she still wants to live in our home with me too
2006-07-26 05:58:50 · update #1
it looks like she's now terrified about the responsibilty she's taken on. getting a property together is a big step. ask her if she'll stay with you if you get rid of the house and go back to the way things were. she may just have cold feet. it's a huge step for anyone. good luck
2006-07-26 02:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by stingub40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not a lot of things that you can do at the moment.
I take it that you are both still living together, You have to be prepared if your girlfriend brings another guy back to your new home.
The best thing you can do is give her time and space and try to continue with your life the best way you can, over time she may realise her mistake and come back to you or you might find someone else but the point is that you will have move on with your life and not turn into the jelous ex because you will end up destroying the very thing that you want to save.
Not to be nasty but if you both are still living together then you want to make sure that you are not the one who has to move out becuase she wants "space", since she is the one who wants a "break" then she is the one who should leave not you!
2006-07-26 02:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by matdevine21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with others in that she may be scared of the new step forward you are taking. She may just need space to step back and take a fresh look at your relationship. Give her the space but also realize that you need to keep moving forward with your life. You can't hang on to someone who is letting go and maybe she wasn't the right girl for you. Give it some time and you may also see that you need more from the relationship, maybe you need someone who is more suited to you.
Be thankful that if she is running, that you found out now before marriage and kids. Think of how much harder things would be at that stage.
Good luck to you.........
2006-07-26 05:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by Hoot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should let her have her space.... If she loves you, she ll come back.... If not, she wasnt THE ONE....
Anyways, everybody needs space and air... the begginging of a relationship together in a home its very difficult... you keep fighting and have different habits.... Let her breath, but tell her oyu love her and you are letting her go because of this...
Think that maybe sometime you ll need a breath too.. !!...
Good luck! =)
2006-07-26 02:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by militastarg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's doing back-flips because its become a reality, she's scared of the commitment and being tied down etc etc etc
Talk to her, tell her everything is ok and if she has another hissy fit make it very plain to her that she needs to make up her mind as you're not going to hang around.
2006-07-26 03:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by zara c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel deep sympathy for you!!!!
You need to have a serious talk with her....ask her what is wrong....tell her there is nothing that cant be sorted out.
Ask what she wants from you..the relationship..n your life together....
she either got scared but dare not say...
Or she realised she doesn't want ta be with ya now.....
there nothing you can do if it the latter.....
If you feel it could work..ask her to go to relate!!!!!
good luck mate!
2006-07-26 03:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing your age. I'd say you have no choose. people change and its not always the way we like. give her space, but it sounds like to me that she wants out and if thats the case you should move on and found someone thats wants to be with you.
2006-07-26 02:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by 'Cause I'm Blonde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is scared of all the changes and does not want to get hurt
2006-07-26 02:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by texasgirl5454312 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't force someone to see what you see
2006-07-26 02:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋