He lies about work and our future accommodation, lies about background & family history. I haven't met any family (all been killed in various accidents) or friends, I know I'm better off without him but he trapped me into becoming pregnant, says he has nothing if I leave...what do I do??? I'm not usually so gullible - blame my hormones!!
2006-07-26 02:08:06 · 13 answers · asked by ditzycatlover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been there and done that. I left at 7months pregnant and have been better off ever since. I deserved more than that. Now my daughter is 8 years old and we both could not be happier. No one wants to live in a life of deception.
2006-07-26 02:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Boo Boo 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Trapped you into becoming pregnant? How does that happen now a days? You couldn't find protection on your own? It's not fair for you to say that he trapped you. Why did you even get with this guy if you knew all this stuff? Well, now you're having a baby and you will always have a connection with this guy.
Well, you must have liked him at some point, you slept with him. What was it that attracted you to him? Was it purely physical? People really need to use their brains when it comes to this stuff. I wouldn't blame your hormones, that's an excuse for your poor choice.
If you want to try it out with this guy, then sit with him and tell him everything you are feeling. Tell him that you cannot be with someone who lies so much. Tell him you feel that he is just hiding his background from you. Let him know that you are very concerned that having his child will result in broken promises and broken hearts to the child and yourself. And take credit for your mistake. Do not blame him or your hormones. Blame yourself.
2006-07-26 09:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most essential thing in making a long term relationship work is trust, someone who you can't trust is someone you can't rely on. If you plan to keep your child you owe that child the kind of stable home of which the person you describe could not possibly be a part. A pregnancy is never a good enough reason to stay in a bad relationship, especially when you know, as you state you do, that you are better off without him. Dump him girl, don't look back, and build a life that satisfies you, both you and your child deserve it.
2006-07-26 09:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by rich k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its not against your principles I'd be booking into a mariestopes clinic.
If thats not your way, just get away, this person will have access to you for the rest of your life if you have his baby. And his actions will only get worse as the years go by and your choices shorten because you are a single woman.
Get some support from your friends, this does not sound like a good place for you to be.
Disappear if you want to keep the baby.
2006-07-26 10:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by zara c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man has a problem with the truth obviously. Show him that you can handle the truth and that he doesn't have any need to dress up the facts and that you would really prefer to know the realities of life rather than have them dressed up in the way that he thinks you want to hear.
If he cant accept this then there is no future and you should think about a termination
2006-07-26 09:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nimbus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey it sounds like your whole relationship was based upon a lie and thats hard for you to take in im sure.If hes going to lie to you about this what else is he going to lie to you about.He could be lying to you about being faithful as well maybe thats a reason you havent met any of his friends.This should be the time you have met them since you are carring his child.I think i would be talking and asking this man some questions.How did he trap you into becoming pregnant?If you talk to him about these issues and nothings resolved then i think you need to tell him you cant take the constant lying you never know when to believe him and that your going to have to leave and do this on your own.I hope all works out for ya
2006-07-26 09:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what to do....you just have to do it.
You know he's no good....why are you trying to rationalize it? And, how did HE trap YOU into getting pregnant? I am assuming you were awake while this was going on...did he replace your birth control pills with Tic Tacs? Did he punch a hole in your diaphram? Did he bend your IUD before assisting your doctor in inserting it? Did he dip your patch in peroxide so it would kill the Nonoxynol? Or, did he say, "I'll pull out before I come, I promise!"?
2006-07-26 09:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pathological liar. Get out quick. Impose on a trusted relative for a while until you can get your own digs. You ARE better off without him. He could be married elsewhere with 20 children for all you know. Time for you to be by yourself. You will do just fine on your own with the baby, trust me.
2006-07-26 09:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Disgruntled Biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least if you leave now, you will only have one "baby " to raise. If you stay with him, you will not only have to raise your child, but put up with him and his lying. He is just a big baby himself. Life will be easier for you without him. I have no time, or patience, for liars. Make him pay child support though, through the court system. Good Luck!
2006-07-26 09:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need someone like that. you probably just better off. think about the future you don't want him lying and making false promise to your child. You seem brave and independent and it's okay to be gullible but once you realized you are you should change.
2006-07-26 09:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by shabana0903 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋