I have been getting really fed up with homosexual lately. The odd thing is I have pretty many homosexual friends that I have known for a while. However in last few years, I met a few homosexual guys and become friend.
However I stop hang out with them or talk with them because they either try to get me to try homosexual stuff, try to tell me that being with a man is no different from being with a woman, ask me stupid question such as if I want them to undress or if I want to measure their dick eventhought they know I'm straight, and other things.
I asked few of homosexual friends who I'm still friend with (I know most of them for 5 years or more) about this. None of them really understand a such behave and ask me if I make it clear to them I'm straight.
However that doesn't stop people from thinking I'm a homophobic. I have at least 5 very good friends who are homosexual that I never had any problem with. I use to have a homosexual roommate and never have any problem.
2006-07-26 02:05:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have no probelm with old friends who are homosexual. They didn't ask me stupid questions, try to push me into anything, etc... I didn't do the same to them so we respect eachother perfer.
When I hang out with this two specific homosexual friends include one who I grew up with. I'm usually with at least 3 or 4 other straight guys. So it's unlikely I'm homosexual.
I believe that people should respect other perference instead of pressure them into changing it.
To make it even dumber is homosexual love to talk about how it's impossible to make them straight. Then they will try to change my perference. WTF is up with this?!
2006-07-26 02:11:13 · update #1
I'm assuming your age range to be late teens or more likely early twenties. If you are around gay men, you're noticing behaviors from some of the less discreet among them that mimic the behaviors of some of the less discreet straight guys of that age towards girls/women. They are struggling with discovering their own sexual identity, and perhaps not doing it with a lot of class.
But if you can't recognize this a simply boorish behavior, and attribute it rather to their being GAY, you exhibit some form of homophobia. I'm a single gay man, but if a guy asked me if I wanted to measure his instrument, I'd tell him to grow up! You instead seem to have chosen to panic and dump him as a friend.
But it is good that you have gay friends, so you're not a total homophobe. Please keep working on it.
Oh, and for the guy who says you spend too much time with gay people to be straight....he needs to grow up.
2006-07-26 02:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately there are many homosexuals who seem to CONSTANTLY be about being homosexual. It's like someone who is really into any one thing. (Say you had a friend who is a NASCAR nut, or a vegan, or a skiier, it doesn't matter) It's always the same thing with that person. Over and over again.
These individual people become attention whores. So each of these groups comes up with a defense mechanism when thier interests are threatened.
"You're a homophobe, you're a rascist, you're a Nazi". THey are just trying to guilt you back into listening to thier constant droning on about themselves.
Billy!
2006-07-26 02:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Billy! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when a person feels threatened by your point of view or if you disagree they resort to name calling. There is nothing wrong with same genders being together( in my opinion), but if the people you assert to be friends, knowing your sexuality still attempt things with you, perhaps they have an ulterior motive.
They may in fact like you more than a friend. No one should be judged by what they are, it is more important on how they behave.
If they behave that way, no matter what their sexuality, chances are you need better friends. But don't let it dissuade you on making friends gay or straight, people are people. They either have high morals or they don't.
2006-07-26 02:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a jerk isnt sexually related. So you met some gays that were jerks. Im sure you know plenty of morons that are straight. You can not judge all homosexuals by the behavior of a few, just as you can not jidge all blacks, or all French people, or all Muslims, or all midgets by the actions of a few.
So the next time a gay person is rude, out of line, or just plain moronic, tell them they are moronic. If you are truly confident in your sexuality, it should not upset you.
2006-07-26 02:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are people thinking you are a homosexual? You are describing behavior that would indicate that to be the case. Maybe you hang out at gay pick-up events and bars too much?
Homophobic means you fear homosexuals, which doesn't fit your description.
Your story logic is all mixed up. Are you sure you didn't just invent it for the attention?
2006-07-26 02:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word homophobia means fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals. It can also mean hatred of and disparagement of homosexual people, their lifestyles, their sexual behaviors, or cultures, and is generally used to assert bigotry.[1]
When the term is applied to political or religious opposition to specific sexual acts or political positions, it has been criticized as a pejorative, loaded term intended to discredit or silence opposition to the political or social goals attributed to homosexual activism. Critics of the term have often alleged that it creates a climate of intimidation by demonizing one side of the debate.
2006-07-26 02:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Bolan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well considering that you hangout with them that much, doesn't that make you think about your own sexuality? I believe that you are more curious that you want to lead. And with them asking you questions like that means that you are actually admitting to yourself that you are gay. But if you want to ignore it like that then you are not telling yourself the truth.
Why else would you be hanging out with that many gay friends in the first place then?
2006-07-26 02:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by chocolatesyrup101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people that call you homophobic don't know the meaning of the word. Apparently you don't "fear" homosexuals, you just don't want to share their alternative lifestyle, which is your right.
2006-07-26 02:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by Snogood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a homophobic. Just try to make it clear to them you respect their ways but you aren't homosexual.
2006-07-26 02:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by maxie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with being a homophope? That is what makes us great we have diversity. IT is ok to be a homophobe just as it is ok to be homosexual.
2006-07-26 02:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by bildymooner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋