How do you talk a 3-year old child about his parents separating...?

Question

The child is emotionally affected since he saw what happend between his parents(physically)...

Answer 1

cadle the baby, go out with the baby, sit and eat with the baby, you are his family, wheater you are a dad or a mam. He will forget what happened. Just keep smilling at the child and start finding your self.
It took me 3 months after separation to get over this phobia of violence. Once you start feeling secured and more happy your child will feel the same. The thick here is to make you happy so you can make your child happy too.
Believe me my daughter was 2 when I was separating, she is now 9, she is such a happy, joyful girl, she loves me so much and I love her thousands:)
It was the best thing I did for me and her to find our peace and truth happyness.
Just one thing you must always and always carry, and don't ever forget that and believe me you will succeed.
Always always always keep strong faith inside your heart, that you can do it, that can do it and do it. And you will
Smile to your child and kiss and find warmth inside you, sunshine and love.
Never never loose faith in God.
May God keep you strong

Answer 2

That can't be helped, I'm afraid. The child will be emotional, so what he needs are reassurances from both parties that you will both be there for him, come hell or high tide.

But I will give you a worse alternative: staying together with your spouse and then separating when he is older and more comprehensive about these situations. I know dozens of cases where the spouses stayed together until it was way, way too late. Do you want to separate when the kid's eighteen? I seriously doubt. His emotionally unstable state now would not nearly compare to that further down the road if you were to stay together.

Explain to him that it's the best thing to do, and give him a halfway clean slate instead of muddling everything by doing the perceivably wrong thing, which would be staying together.

Answer 3

I think that you should be upfront with the child. A 3yr. old knows that hitting is not nice, and if one of the parents had to go away because they were hitting they are more likely to understand. It will also show the child that that behavior will not be tolerated by them towards other people. Do not confuse this with threatening the child when they do hit, because that tends to be a stage with a 3yr. old, but there has to be clear lines drawn.

Answer 4

Just don't babytalk.Simplify in his own littlest way to enter his own world so he gets the most comprehension of the truth. Be extra supportive,be very loving and when there are other parties involved in the new relationships now or in the future, make certain that more attention is now added& that love is multiplied,not deducted nor divided.

all the best :)

Answer 5

The message you want to get across is that mommy and daddy will live in different places and love him very much. They will always be his parents even if they live in separate places.

Keep it simple and explain it is a calming tone. Answer any questions he has keeping in mind he needs to feel safe and loved.

Answer 6

A counselor who specializes in children's issues might be the best one to advise you. They would know which concepts a 3 year old would understand and how to help him deal with what he's seen and what will be happening as far as the separation goes.

Good luck to you

Answer 7

I can't tell you exactly what you should tell him. But i do know that you need to be careful how you word it. Just saying things like mommy and daddy don't love each other anymore, don't get along, don't like each other, are mad at each other, can be very bad because in a child's mind they can equate that to themselves. It can lead to worry that you may stop loving them, get mad at them ,etc and then they would have to go away.

Hope this helps.

Answer 8

I did exactly that. Initially I told my daughter (then 3) that I needed to stay with her grandparents (my parents) for a while. They don't understand much at that age. Make sure it's in terms they can understand. There actually are books out there that help us with how to communicate these complex issues to young children.

Answer 9

Just tell the child honestly that mum and dad dont get on but they both love him/her so much..It is very hard at that age but being honest is far better than lieing..you'll looses the kids trust that way.good luck

Answer 10

You tell him Mommy and Daddy love him very much but for awhile Mommy and Daddy are going to live apart because they're not getting along right now. Then you tell him he's going to be fine. End of story....he's 3 and that's all he needs to know now.