Please tell me the truth.
2006-07-26 00:48:15 · 12 answers · asked by Great Man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends completely on the woman and the circumstances, but I would not want either. I'd much rather be treated as an equal, and treat him the same way.
2006-07-26 00:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, there are certain matters in a relationship/marriage that need to be controlled by one or both parties. Here are some examples in my relationship.
We are in the process of buying a house. I let him deal with all the technical details to the financing and voicing OUR decisions. And if there are any discrepancies on bills. I am included but he is our voice.
I am in charge of making all appointments. Dr.'s, parent teacher conferences, vet appointments, etc. Then WE show up.
Even though we are married, we have separate checking accounts and a joint savings account. We split the bills on who pays what. Each month we pay our designated bills out of our personal checking accounts. And then we put a portion of our pay check into the savings account. What is left over is our spending money and neither one of us can tell the other how to spend it.
Now, in the bedroom. It comes down to whoever is feeling the sauciest gains control of the situation.
I would hope in any relationship not one person would want the responsibility of all the control. A relationship is designed for support. That one person will get tired at some point and the other is going to need to step in and wear the pants.
2006-07-26 09:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Building Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all depends now doesn't it? Who wants all the control? Who wants ALL the responsibility.. who wants to be blamed when something goes wrong?
NOT ME.. We have shared the responsibility of the decisions. I make more than he does ( have more control) because there are things that I know that he doesn't. I'm not saying he's stupid.. I'm just saying that when it comes to disciplining the kids, cooking, cleaning, going somewhere, presents.. etc.. that I make the decisions cause he just doesn't know how. When it comes to investing and saving.. he makes the decisions.. cause I don't know how.
The person who has the control over a specific situation should know what they're talking about.. and here.. we both make decisions based on what we know.
2006-07-26 08:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe that it is give and take... 50/50... I think sometimes I control him and sometimes he controls me... but it is good sometimes... sometimes I need him to help me to learn not to spend too much money or help me watch what I 'm putting into my body, etc. I have helped him to quit drinking and be more sensative... because he loves me... I believe in a relation ship that both need some control over the other to make things work and for bnoth to be happy. It is basically a help thing.. but it has to be 50/50 because anymore than that I think would be very unhealthy... like picking their friends or where they go & how long they go etc, now that is a sick kind of controling. Not healthy on a relationship.
2006-07-26 07:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what way of control your talking about!As far as he telling me what to do and when to do it I think NOT!A man and a womans relationship should be as one,and I think that in making decisions it should be disscused between both!Some men try to be overbearing and control women just for the heck of it!This is an idiot!A women should ask her mans opinion on thinks,but not let their be control,nor should she try to control him! It's a two way street and if both agree its a win win situation! I do not like a guy who thinks he has full control of my life!And I do not try to have full control of my man either,this is a way asking for spats and arguements,but in the bedroom I love control,and also love a man to control me,but thats another subject!
2006-07-26 08:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy IQ 125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think women instinctively try to control the man but feel more happy and secure when he does not let them but controls them instead. It all goes back to the curse put on Adam and Eve. God told Eve her husband would rule over her, and I think in His mercy He wired women to be happier with a strong, authoritative male.
2006-07-26 11:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to be have a very independant and controlling personality. I like to be in total control of everything, and sometimes I "take over" and don't even realize it. I respect my husband when he "puts me in my place" so to speak. He could find a less harsh or rude way to do it, though. Sometimes, the words/tone that he uses could be avoided, but it gets the point across. He let's me know (from time to time) that he's not gonna let me run all over him.
2006-07-26 07:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls marry the man who is like their daddy.Loving,caring,and controlling.
2006-07-26 07:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women need to feel safe & secure so they like to control the men so they be sure that they will be safe..
also women always search for happyness so they need to control the relation to direct it to the way that leads to happyness..
2006-07-26 07:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Nicholet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO CONTROL ANYONE.!!!
SO, NO, I DONT CONTROL MY HUSBAND AND HE DONT CONTROL ME.
CONTROL MEANS (TO ME) THAT YOU STOP SOMEONE FROM DOING THINGS THEY LIKE TO DO, TELL THEM WHEN THEY CAN GO TO THE STORE OR GO OUT WITH THEIR FRIENDS.
2006-07-26 08:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋