I took a pregnancy test the other day, and it came back positive. I told my boyfriend (who is 32 and technically an adult) and he said he didn't know what to do, he didn't know if he was ready. He said "i don't know about all this baby stuff," but a couple weeks ago when I didn't know anything about it, he said that if I got pregnant, it would be ok and that it would be kinda cool. I think hes just scared right now because he's never been a father and is worried. Anyone have any ideas about this?
2006-07-26 00:45:55 · 12 answers · asked by whistlebritches_17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
At some point we were getting married, it wasn't like he was some random guy
2006-07-26 00:53:27 · update #1
and he was the one who said to me "why don't you stop taking your birth control" so i think hes just scared right now.
2006-07-26 01:00:19 · update #2
back then it was not real to him and probably what he thought you needed to hear to put your mind at ease so he could get some. Now that it's real and the test is positive he's just scared. Have him go to your dr apointments with you. The first time he hears that little heartbeat he'll start to get over it.
Get him this book
"The Expectant Father" by Armin A Brott. bookstores or www.mrdad.com
It really helped my hubby when i was pg.
2006-07-26 00:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like every normal male he is scared. It comes with the territory. He will be okay with it, it will just take him time to get used to the idea. Most men are in shock in the begining. My husband was the same way when I was pregnant. It took him a few months after the baby until he came around completely and realized how great having a baby really is.
Good luck and Congrats!
2006-07-26 07:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideas?
That's why the big "fuss" over not having unprotected sex.
The reality is always DIFFERENT then the FANTASY.
He will likely warm up to the idea, or he will BAIL on you. He may suggest termination as third alternative.
You said he's 32, how old are you? That makes a BIG difference.
And finally, yet another good argument for, waiting until you're married to HAVE SEX.
2006-07-26 07:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, have you seen a doctor to confirm the pregnancy? If you have, and you know for sure that you are pregnant, you need to decide how YOU feel about it first. If you plan on having the baby and raising it, you should tell your BF what your plans are. Let him decide what he wants to do about it. You do not want to trap him into marrying you! It needs to be his decision.
Trust me -- it is much easier being a single parent by choice rather than by divorce.
Good luck to you and your baby!
2006-07-26 07:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ifeelyourpain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right, as he knows nothing about pregnancy and he knows only about sex.
As you are pregnant, you have to take further steps.
Go to a Gynaecologist, and get an abortion done, if you are not interested to give birth to that child.
or immediately marry that guy and become Father and Mother.
& live happily ever after.
2006-07-26 07:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess he's just scared and a little freak out right now. He'll be okay once you take him to your doctor and he hear's the baby heartbeat. Give him time. Guys are usually more nervous than girls.
2006-07-26 07:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by shabana0903 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What idea would you like to have? Marriage is the one alternative and that depends from wher you have come from. Do not go for abortions as they may result you in infertility or problems with uterus in future. Think of Marriage both of you. Please do not have any other option other than marriage.. this is a kind sugestion
2006-07-26 07:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by MADDY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your guy is really scared right now,just give him a little time (say a week) though time is running out,then talk it over again.but I'll strongly advice NO to abortion.Don't worry he'll come round.take care
2006-07-26 07:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by babygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know men always are scared & shirk from their responsibilities when faced with one. i think earlier he never took it seriously but now actually when you are pregnant & the thought of being a father is not registering to him... give him some time he ll come around to you himself..
2006-07-26 07:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider also what the atmosphere was when he accepted the idea.he could have accepted to please you at that particular moment.don't ruin your happiness,you both must be sure of what you want.if you don't know what you want then you don't have aims.be sure you both want it.don't think of abortion,you could be putting an end to conception.
2006-07-26 08:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by kkshanana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋