How do I be...?

Question

How can I be a prep and popular? Are there any popular people on this site? If so tell me how to be popular. Please???

And when I mean popular, I mean junior high popular.

Answer 1

Popular has a few sides to it and depending upon what group you are attempting to be popular with, will depend on how you approach things.

If you want to be popular in general...be yourself. If you want to attract the "beautiful" crowd, act and be beautiful, if not superficial.

Attract the male group, well...a low cut top, tight pants or way short skirt and you are probably in regardless of what the rest of you looks like...boys will be boys :) okay not ALL of them, but quite a few.

Personally, I vote you be yourself because some day you will have to be just that and if the people can't accept you for who you are and how you act? Do you really want those friendships?

I was the same person in High school as I am today...well, okay, I was more materialistic actually and looks were important and yes, I collected guys and I had many girl friends and yes, I was considered popular by some, mostly those who considered themselves as you do, but never along the way did I lose the sense of who I really was nor how I had been brought up. Being popular doesn't always bring with it happiness. If you have to struggle to be popular then you have to ask, is it worth it. I was brought up in what was considered upper-middle class, however, I was also raised to not flaunt my familys' life, even tho I didn't always adhere to that. Today I see and know those really upper upper class people and well, they have lives that I wouldn't consider as "blessed" any longer. They have bad marriages, broken marriages, children on drugs, lost businesses or businesses about to be lost, and dead end jobs that have no high class stature about them...however, others, who didn't conform to popularity, or who where popular because of who they were, are flourishing today. Fortunately, looking back on popularity then...I think that staying grounded has certainly helped even if I did carry materialistic with me for a number of years. today, life is exceptional, not simply through popularity but through being down to earth...those attitudes seem to be the ones that actually garner more respect today than ones that flaunt their stature and are not who they really are. The nicest people I know today are those who have gained their place in life, many as multi-millionaires, yet are the most humble, generous and yes, down to earth, people I know. The preppies could be from families that are trying to hold it all together, some by appearances alone. It isn't always fun to be on the popular side...lots of responsibility and sometimes you end up being resented and talked about just because of who you are portraying to be.

It's a hard thing to actually do, really. Being popular is really a state of mind and once you have that you simply draw those who are good for you, to you, usually :)

If popular is extremely important to you and you aren't worried about having to reinvent yourself simply to attract that popular crowd (or the perceived popular crowd) then reinvent, become a mirror image of popularity as you see it.

However, some day those "popular" people will not be what you need any longer because life always takes us down the path we've always been meant to follow...and it then again makes us reinvent ourselves in order to again be popular to a different crowd and possibly one that isn't superficial but instead is popular because they are themselves. Think about which "class" of popular you want to be really...and if you have to hide or be ashamed of some things in your current life...eventually someone will learn that you aren't really who you portray and it may all unravel quickly...you will then have alienated the populars as well as those perceived as unpopular.

Geeks and down to earthers many times end up being the upper echelon that you are looking at now, while those populars end up experiencing some of life's nastier qualities.

Answer 2

I hate to break this to you, but that you're (a) asking this question and (b) on this site probably means you're not going to be preppy. That's something that, to do it well, you have to be raised into. Nothing looks sillier to an upper-middle-class person than a lower-middle-class person trying to ape gentility. (By the way, I'm NOT at the top looking down; I spent a lot of my teenage years asking the same questions you're asking. My family was working class at best.) The essential quality is insouciance - the air of having achieved preppiness without trying, or even being conscious of it. As for being popular, well, that's completely up to the people you want to impress and be accepted by. Another case, though, of trying too hard being the most likely key to abject failure. What people admire, ultimately, is ease, naturalness, and an overwhelming sense that the person they're relating to is comfortable with him- or herself.

Answer 3

Is preppy popular?

It wasn't when I was in school, they were more of the geek squad.

I was popular in school, there was a group of about 7 of us, 4 girls and 3 guys that hung out together. We were popular because we were outgoing and always hung around together.
You can't try too hard, the people who tried sooo hard to be in with us never were.

Answer 4

Answer as many questions as you can to earn points, and you will be popular (well, at least in this top)....
And be more specific next time. Define "popular". Add some details to your question.

Answer 5

if you wear popular clothes, but its not your style, kids will see right through it. Then youll be an outcast and jacked out of 150+ dollars.

But, if you wanna be popular, try macys and JC Penny (i dont know whats in those stores, but people tell me there high end and upscale stores)

Answer 6

Don't waste your time trying to be popular. Instead try to be what you'd like to be like when you grow up.

People who are popular aren't always successful in life. It's the crazy geeks who make it big.

Answer 7

Yeah, part of what Ron said, "comfortable with who you are". However, I get the impression that preppy means phoney/stuffy. So why would anyone wanna be that? Maybe we have different definitions?

Preppy: Of or relating to a young pupil or graduate of an expensive preparatory school; affluent and neatly dressed.

Answer 8

be constant with all the people. The lie making you less popular

Answer 9

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Answer 10

You MUST be popular already...look at all the answers you've received.