In past couples of years, we have experienced married couples easily cheating on their spouses though they appear to lead a happy and properous lives. Some of them are even regular church goers. Please offer help.
2006-07-26 00:19:21 · 12 answers · asked by Phillo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one comes away from a happy experience. Appearing happy is not synonomous with being happy. No spouse who is happy with his or her marriage consciously betrays his/her spouse. Other than spouses who are of unsound mind, the happily married do not stray. It is likely that most married couples(churchgoers being no exception), were not happy in the first place, but married anyway for other reasons. Some were lonely, others pleased their parents, or needed to leave a troubled enviroment, maybe others to secure their lovers for life.
Infidelity is only an outward manifestation of something gone seriously wrong within. Lets face it Marriage is not for everyone. It takes great courage to commit to another for the rest of his/her life.
The only safe passageway through marriage is if Love is present. But in too many romance filled relationships reality sets in only when the dust has settled, and then spouses may not like what they see. Some pretend to be happy, some delude themselves that one day all will be well. While others get their kicks through work, friends or drink. Some resign themselves to sticking together for the sake of their beloved children.
But all is not bleak for unhappy married people. Marrige has the potential to bring to perfection two imperfect souls. If ailing couples make a concerted effort to revive their marriage they can bring untold happiness to their relationship and be a true source of grace for their children. However both parties must genuinely desire for the marriage to succeed. If they can acknowledge that there is no such thing as a readymade true lover out there for them, or an elusive soulmate roaming the earth in search for them, then they can look inward at an already existing readymade platform for the growth of true love.
Infidelity in a marriage can be looked at in 2 ways; a failure of marriage and an unmistakeable betrayal that calls for the immediate dissolution of the marriage, or as a beacon light pointing towards a troubled area in the marital relationship which is demanding attention. If both parties conscientiously want the marriage to work (and not for the sake of the children alone) then a tremendous growth opportunity that cannot be missed awaits the two.
2006-07-26 01:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I disagree with just about every response to this question. A person can be very happily married, but still desire sexual encouters with a new partner (understand that I'm not codoning it, just stating that it happens all the time). No matter how great sex is with your significant other...it can never be as exhilerating as the first time with a "strage" partner. That rush is never equalled and cannot be duplicated (no matter how much people want to say 'we're as passionate now as we were 20 years ago').
The urge to have sex with someone else is not always a reflection on some other aspect of the marriage, especially for a man. A guy can be completely and totally in love with one woman but completely lust after another. Its that simple. Thus, if the man chooses to act on the lustful feelings, its not necessarily an indication that he's disatisfied with his wife.
But, people refuse to accept that as an answer, so they make up other reasons...."there must be a problem," or "something must not be right with the relationship." That's just not always the case.
Its a simple answer.
2006-07-26 11:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by The Answer Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a happily married spouse should not just start to sexually betray their partner. and what is that saying....appearances are only skin deep. trust me, half the people in this world walk around happy and prosperous, but that doesn't mean their soul is. hey, as long as it isn't you or your spouse, honestly i wouldn't stress too much about it. and your little church goers there, oh, i'm sure there is even worse than cheating going on in the ones who you never expected it from....
2006-07-26 00:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Arianne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, happy marriage does seems happy from above but i don't think so that there is a word like "HAPPILY EVER AFTER" it never happens because this is life,no couple is happily married, they have tit bits every day which are the part of daily routine and which needed to be tucked up when needed, if they are having sex outside there can be many reasons
1, no spark in bedroom left
2 no chemistry left
3 sex life going stale
4 need new techniques or positon
5 last but not the least, they don't feel wanted by their partner,
i think if your partner makes feel wanted then people never stray but this is human nature, so we need to keep this spark alive turn by turn then only a marriage works
2006-07-26 00:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by cc20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately many people are in relationships just for the wrong reason: not being alone, not feeling lonely, having safe and frequent sex, having kids, social pressure, etc. This means that many people out there, women and men, are deep down unsatisfied. So, when the first opportunity appears, they jump into it. The funny thing is that everybody presses you to marry if you are single, when so many married and in defacto people should be single and having sex with whomever they like!
2006-07-26 00:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
living a happy and prosperous life has nothing to do with sex....if they are cheating...they are not happy....period! Even if the sex is good at home, something else isn't. It may not have anything to do with sex to start with, but then turns into sex...(And people like that are why I don't go to church).
2006-07-26 00:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human nature, we always want what we can't have. I think a big part is the intrigue and excitement of sneaking around. Add the possibility of getting caught and the sex is way more thrilling.
2006-07-26 00:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by michellelangston2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely there is an area of lack of communication or failure to relate with the spouse in certain areas or even boredom, the number one killer in relationships so it may happen when there is an unfortunate clash of circumstances
2006-07-26 00:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by galaxy girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The partner wasn't that "happily married." Look to see what's missing-other than your partner.
2006-07-26 00:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously they are not getting the needs met in their present relationship... you only stray when your not satisfied.
2006-07-26 00:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋