I'm a male and I don't want to be gay. Does anyone that turn straight successfully can help me?
2006-07-25 23:08:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Being gay is a way of life. It isn't some condition that you're born with. There isn't some genetic disorder or strain of DNA that causes you to like people of the same sex. It isn't natural. All these "tests" that "scientists" perform are more to get people to question themselves (i.e. after a person reads that younger brothers are more likely to be leads a guy to question his sexuality).
The answer is act natural and you'll find out how easy it is to be straight. Think straight, act straight and guess what, you'll be straight.
2006-07-26 02:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really gay (not just suspecting you are), that's the way you were put together and there's nothing that can change it. It's as impossible as turning a straight guy into being gay.
What you can do is trying to repress that side of yourself and pretend you're not gay. Eventually, you'll grow into your new role. Dating girls won't make you feel the same way as with guys, but you'll learn to live with that. Gay guys have done it all through history and a lot of them lived successful, perfectly good lives. There's a personal price tag on such a decision, but we all know there are price tags on everything.
My advice to you is that you go see a good, non-biased therapist and talk this thing through with him/her. Being gay is definitely not the end of the world (I'm bi myself, which isn't all that simple, either) but if you're miserable, don't try to sweat this out by yourself. For some of us, it takes a lifetime to get used to being ourselves and we can use all help available to speed up that process.
Check out the link below, too. Take care, mate.
2006-07-25 23:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you're going to be gay then there's really nothing you can do about it.
There are two kinds of homosexuality - the kind where you have a physical attraction to the same sex instead of the opposite one, and nothing can be done about it. There are, however, also people who choose to be gay because they don't care what gender their partner is as long as they love them. From your question you sound like more of the former kind, and my best advice is to learn very quickly that all those idiots who say 'fag' a lot are nothing but foolish children and that they really don't know at all what they're talking about.
However, if it really, really bothers you to be gay, then you could just be the pitcher all the time. Men, women, they're pretty much the same once you've got them facedown in the pillow.
2006-07-25 23:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Asuza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is how you feel about it, then may I suggest that, first of all, you stop believing yourself to be gay. All healing has to start with the individual's desire to be well, healthy and whole, not just physically, but also mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Believe that you are who you want to be, and you'll be on the road to wholeness. If you're open to it, Jesus Christ can do in you all that needs to be done. All of us have done many different kinds of wrong things, so what is and what is not offensive to God, is not the issue. Jesus Christ changes people from the inside out.
Gays and Lesbians are fine people, and as with any group, they contribute a lot of positive things to society. My younger brother is gay, and he and his partner have been together for over 10 years. Never once did I forbid him or his partner or any of their friends, to be around my sons. My sons are grown, and they love their uncle. Gays and Lesbians are very respectful of the rights of children. But if you do not want to be gay and do not see yourself as gay, then do not think of yourself as gay.
2006-07-25 23:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot help you. But I might give you some suggestions. Firstly, just try to focus on women. Secondly, find as many male friends as possible, don't go hangin' out with girls which consider you as a good friend. The last, be happy with yourself. Don't think about it too much, and when the time comes, you will stunned at your achievement.
It's all about self acceptance. Take it or leave it.
2006-07-25 23:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by groovy_extended 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, please accept yourself and love yourself for who you are...there's nothing wrong with being gay.
2006-07-25 23:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by vinyl_mad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋