i have tripplets in my tummy rightnow?

Question

i want to abort them cos there is no way i can take care of them. i have two boys already

Answer 1

so what's the actual question?

are you asking us if you should abort them? are you asking if your boys should be your priority? are you looking for help and understanding? or are you hormonal, stressed, scared, upset and looking for reassurance?

firstly: yes, triplets on top of already having two boys is a HUGE responsibility. whether or not anyone on here agrees with abortion, surely they understand the panic that you're feeling right now? i'm not condoning this, but i won't condemn it either. i truly believe that your boys are your priority and that if you absolutely feel that you could not cope short or long term with having another three babies then you should get professional advice. don't ask on here, cos you're just going to get the pro-life/ pro-choice arguments about your pregnancy...hardly anyone will consider your emotional and physical wellbeing to be more important than your pregnancy.

secondly, it really does depend on your individual circumstances. i mean, do you have support with your boys just now? from partner/family/inlaws/friends etc? what age are your boys just now...are they weaned/toilet trained/at school etc? are you financially able to look after them?

thirdly, if you really feel that you'd be left at home holding the babies then you also need to discuss this with your partner...whom i noticed you haven't mentioned, it's ultimately your choice, but i think you need to discuss your feelings with him.

and lastly, although abortion sounds like an easy option i'm sure it's not. again, both emotionally and physically. adoption is extremely hard too. as is caring for 5 young children.

my advice to you would be to go see your gp and ask him/her to refer you to a professional who can help you with all aspects of this dilemma.

although i feel that as long as you have some support you will probably find that you will learn to cope with five children a lot faster and better than you could imagine, i also feel that 'not being able to cope' with having five children is a perfectly valid reason for considering a termination.

like i said before, i'm sitting on the fence on this one. but i do feel that YOU are as important as your pregnancy and you deserve to be given unbiased professional advice.

and for all of those people who have asked why you got pregnant in the first place...come on! a bit of sympathy here!! who wouldn't have panicked if the doctor had told them they were expecting triplets!!! i think i'd have panicked a bit too!

whatever happens, i wish you the best of luck. x

Answer 2

Firstly, congratulations. But do you really want to have 3 abortions? I'm against abortion unless the kids or mother are in danger, or if the child is the result of a rape. I don't think you should abort the pregnancy just because you don't think you'll be able to cope; it's selfish in my opinion. If i were you i'd put them up for adoption, at least that way they get the chance to live out their lives, which is much better than killing them just because they're going to be a bit of hassle for you.

At the end of the day though it's completely up to you. Personally i wouldn't have the abortions but like i said i'm not the pregnant one here.

Answer 3

Please don't do that!! When I found out that I was going to have another set of twins when the first set was 2 years old I thought that we would not be able to do it. We manage. There are lots of places to get help if you need assistance, you just have to look. I will not say that it has been easy, because it has not (parenting never is). I cannot picture my life without all of my children. If you really think that you will not be able to do it, then give them up for adoption. There are millions of couples out there that want to have babies and cannot. Just llok at the kids that you have now, and imaginged that you aborted them too.

Answer 4

My first thought was: please don't abort these babies
I understand it is hard - believe me - but i would say ask for help from every institution - you will get it - this is something you will truly regret. I think you are asking here cause you are confused, maybe shocked - you can have the babies adopted, you may decide to keep them but do not end their chance to live before it has even began.
It will be tough pregnancy but it will not last for ever and your gp can arrange for all kinds of help in duration.
don't give up and let us know what you decided

Answer 5

congradulations are in order .
You have opened up a can of worms for a debate and bad e-mails for this question. If you feel this way about it why in hell fall pregnant for. Try and talk to some one about adoption if you feel this way about it as you will never forgive yourself if you abort them all. They are only human's just like you are and they have the right to live.

Answer 6

I'm sorry you are faced with such a tough decision. You should do what is right for the triplets, as someone mentioned you could put them up for adoption as they are unique and deserve to live.
My wife was adopted and I thank her mother for giving her life. Our daughter was born on valentines day and she is the result of my wife having a chance

Answer 7

well Dont abort them. If all means then give them up for adoption. I would love to have more children but i cant. My fiancee cant have kids either.But we are thinkin bout adoptin or something along that way... He is the one that cant have kids.. we are lookin to have a couple more kids.. try lookin into Adoptin them out.. DOnt kill them . that is just wrong.. if you need someone to talk to i will be glad to talk to you bout anything you want.. Take care hun. it will get easier.

Answer 8

I understand your fear of having 5 kids, but if there's a will, there's a way. Hope you can find somebody to help you once you have the kids so that you reconsider your options now. Don't abort them, just love them...

Answer 9

I wish I could have Tripplets . God makes a way .

Answer 10

Don't. Just have them then adopt them to some one who can't have children themselves. There are sooo many people out there who will give children a loving home and to have triplets is a gift.