Hi friend,
I am in big confusion of my life.
Myself 26/m & I m well settled boy from nice family.
I love a girl who is working with me in my office.
We both love each other so much.
We both are from different religion.
Now her parents are asking me change my religion then only I can marry with their daughter,& she is also asking me to change my religion.
I m so much tense what to do at this time of my life.
Ho will I forget the god whom I m praying from my birth.
Many other conditions for me from her parents.
What should I do~?
Really she loves me?
I haven’t asked her to do anything for me.
But she told me if I want to marry her I have to do all the things which her parents are asking, because she can not do anything against my parents.
Please give me ur suggestion….
I am using my friends email as I haven’t yahoo account..
2006-07-25 22:18:35 · 11 answers · asked by s a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What religion are you? What is she making you convert to? If you love her, convert. But if you can't handle that, forget about her and meet someone at your church.
2006-07-25 22:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really this whole thing is not just religion. Her parents are forcing you to do something. It is not THEIR marriage it is yours and hers. Any decisions that are made should be between you and your future wife. Because you will be creating a family together. Her parents are not going to be creating your new family. I suggest you find someone else. Once you do get married it will only get worse. You will have to bend to all of their demands and your wife will get upset if you don't. Sounds like she might need to grow up a little and get away from them. Or at least gain some independence before she starts a new family. The whole first year of my marriage has been riddled with demands (and not as bad as religion) from my husbands parents and it is the ONLY thing that we argue about. Once I was so mad I told him he should have married his mom cause he only does what she wants! Now he understands thought but it has been very very hard.
2006-07-25 22:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion shouldn't come in the way of love . There are many couples in the world those have not changed their religions but still staying together. Love / marriage shouldn't be conditional. Try to persuade her. If you change the religion now, later on u might repent about the decision. Good luck.
2006-07-25 22:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loved you she wouldn't ask you to give up your religion. This would be the start of a terrible relationship in which you would have no say if you guys are not even married and she is already trying to change you.
2006-07-25 22:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by BeachBABE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear i did love marriage and in my opinion....if her parents want u to change ur religion....don't think....but is she is asking the same....don't trust....if she love u....she has to accept u as u r....because love should not be based on conditions....and suppose for her today u changed ur religion than who can assure that tomorrow she will not ask for something else....like discontinue ur all relations with ur family....can u accept it....so i think u have to think about all these and tell her that if she really loves u....come to u and accept u as u r....otherwise forget her....for those (ur parents) who r loving u from ur birth unconditionally.
2006-07-25 22:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by its Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do not you ask them to change their religion
basically love has no relegion, love based on conditions is nothing but fatal attraction or its business not true love
all of them should be able to accept them as it is.
think of your family members too..
love brings two hearts together, marriage brings two familes and culture together and if this basic rule of humanity and love they do not know then it is better to forget all of them
Sorry, but take a worst case..suppose afterwards she leaves you in one or the otherway what will happen to you.
if you are alone in your family then its different other wise think of your younger brothers or sisters life also..
2006-07-25 22:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by Simbu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is insisting u to do all the things which her father is telling u to do then i am sorry man, she does not loves u.this simply means that she is happy with you but she does not loves u.because my dear friend in love there is no religion.always religion has to bend in front of love.had she be in love with you she would had simply left her home or would have talked to her father.i am sure if this one sided love( from your side)turns into a relationship it would of a very short span.
2006-07-25 22:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
look - Don't EVER Leave Ur Relegion
This is maybe plan to make people in thier Relegion
Don't Do This - ASK Me
2006-07-25 22:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggest is, don't change God's love to woman's love, God loves you before you are made, and God loves you what ever you are, could she love you like that? i mean will love you even you're a handdicap? will still love you even you have a cerebal palsy? or still love you even you have nothing in your mind, God do loves you even you're nothing. just read the bible how God loves you! and ask Him to give you your own soulmate.
2006-07-25 22:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by luci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't convert unless you want to. Marriage is a life time commitment, both parties should respect one another. Love is unconditional, love is kind, love is mutual respect....
Good luck.
2006-07-26 03:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋