My friend who i have known for 15 years is in deep sh*t!! She has over the last few years got herself quite a coke habit. In the last year her family have disowned her she has lost her job and boyfriend and is now on job seekers allowence.
She has annoyed a few people including drug dealers, and i have along with another friend have had to bail her out with money and we have given her a roof over her head and are always there for her.
Lately friends that she has known for years dont want to know anymore, she has shacked up with a dealer gets totally off her rocker sits up drinking all night and wakes up wanting to kill herself how can we make her see what she is doing to herself?
2006-07-25 22:16:05 · 9 answers · asked by dizzymooo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you are doing fine ,although this could be for a really long period of time
She needs to realise herself that is a dangerous road the one she is on. You can't force her to see that ,because she will run away from you.
Keep giving her your support ,but not money ,she needs to see that you are there to support her but you don't approve her drug and drinking habits . Maybe one day she would realise how lucky she is to have a friend who is been there for her all along .
Try gentle therapies I heard some people get some help through Reiki , you can even learn yourself and do it to her.
But always remember : You can show the horse where the water is , but you can't make him drink it.
Good Luck
2006-07-25 22:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by blueflosky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't, the only way she will get out of this is if SHE wants to...obviously she doesn't. The only thing I can advise is that you stop bailing her out and tell her that you're never going to do it again and walk away. Since she is so bent on destroying herself all you can do is walk away before she pulls you in and destroys you too.
2006-07-26 05:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have been a real loyal friend. But I agree you have to get her into a programme. If you keep bailing her out she will just rely more and more on you. Good luck
2006-07-26 05:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem right there is you always are bailing her out let her learn a lesson or two she might not like you but you are going to be helping her.
2006-07-26 09:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by shortie8992005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who can choose the chagnge is her - if you really feel the need to do something out of duty - get her into NA or CA.
2006-07-26 06:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by singleton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shud send her to some rehabilation centres....
and also u can take her to a psychatarist who can help u and her to dela with the situatiuon tell her that u all need her and her life doesn't njeed any drugs
2006-07-26 08:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only she can make the decision to change. All you can do is be there for her when she's had enough. Good luck.
2006-07-26 05:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for tough love.For her sake get her into a treatment program.
2006-07-26 05:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs proffesional help!!
i must say you are one of those best friends who are very hard to find these days...hats off to you!!
2006-07-26 05:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋