2006-07-25 21:27:16 · 14 answers · asked by adwoa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
practice makes perfect
2006-07-25 21:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been frigid from day one? Or you are just frigid with your present partner? The best way to deal with frigidity is to have the man tie you up. And he starts to fondle and masturbate you till you are aroused and then stop. And after a certain time, start the activity all over again till you are about to reach the point of no return and then stop again, making you yearning for it. Of course the man would not be that cruel as to not wanting to let you have an orgasm, he will go all the way when he "disturb" you all the way. Think that will cure your frigidity?
2006-07-25 22:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lawrence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is not that you are frigid, but you are not attracted to him.
A woman is not a roboter - and you are not "broken" just because you don't feel aroused by your partner.
Have you ever felt aroused? If so, you aren't frigid but have the wrong partner or you simply don't feel aroused by his way of having sex...
Have you ever discussed this with him? Because it is important to speak about what you'd like. Some guys never consider that a woman may want sex differently than he likes the sex.
Have you ever pleasured yourself? If not - try it. It's not "cheating" on him - you only need to get your body more and then you'll know what you like or dislike - and can give him some hints on how to make love to you with a better "result".
2006-07-25 22:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long you been together. If it's new your just not attracted to them. If it's old something is wrong somewhere else and women have to have the whole package correct to feel comfortable in bed. Men just look to the physical side.
My ex used to say I was frigid, but thing where wrong else where in the relationship but because I didn't want to do anything the instant he did he said I was frigid, and if it's said enough you believe it, I even went to the doctors.
But I haven't had any problems since he's gone, don't let him bully you in to thinking any problems are your fault just look and see.
2006-07-25 21:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by angelcake 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, maybe this tips will do the tricks:
1. Reserve time for nonsexual intimacy with one's partner. Couples, who reserve weekly talk time and time for a weekly date alone without the kids, will maintain a closer relationship and are more likely to feel sexual interest.
2. Detach sex and affection, so that neither person is afraid to be affectionate on a daily basis, fearing that it will be interpreted as an invitation to proceed to intercourse.
3. Reading books or taking courses in couple communication, or reading books about massage may also encourage feelings of closeness. For some individuals, reading novels or viewing movies with romantic or sexual content may also serve to encourage sexual desire.
4. Regularly reserving "prime time," before exhaustion sets in, for both talking and sexual intimacy may encourage closeness and sexual desire. For too many couples, sex gets what is left over late at night.
Hope those tips can help you dear, it sure works for me.
Good luck !
2006-07-25 21:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by nike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it always been like this or is it a new thing? If it is new then something is going on, with women it usually means you are unhappy with other parts of the relationship, those problems have to be solved first. i would also recommend a dr's visit to make sure all the hormone levels are where they should be and that its not caused by an underlying medical issue.
2006-07-25 21:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you never feel turned on by your partner then may be its the wrong partner...
if how ever you are sure it is the partner for you then i suggest you stop trying to aroused.....take a few steps back and go back to basics....
candle light,soft music,gentle massage .....taking it in turns to touch each other,but keeping away from the sexual areas.....try this a couple of times a week for a month.....then add the sexual areas.....and finally hopefully after a few sessions you will be so aroused you wont know whats hit you......good luck
2006-07-26 02:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by julie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you must find out if something has triggered this, the birth of a baby (for a woman) or weight gain can affect a libido. See the doctor who can refer you to a specialist.
Or it may be as simple as your partner just doesn't do it for you in which case you will have to weigh up your options.
2006-07-25 21:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Violent and bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can start by role playing.....it spices up ur love life and you imagine other people instead of the same boring face.....or it's time to change partners....maybe take a sex class....watch porn together or apart.....learn new moves....or you take control and get what YOU want out of it
2006-07-25 21:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get aroused by someone else. Up to you if you go any further...
2006-07-25 22:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋