What is the best, most effective way to handle a bully?

Question

for those you can't avoid such as certain family members, coworkers, bosses...realistic suggestions /or coping techiniques, please

Answer 1

MACE!

Answer 2

Bullies, regardless of age, are hungry for attention and deep inside are basically insecure people. To get the attention they crave and boost their own ego, they prey on individuals they perceive as weak or timid. Once a bully senses you cannot be intimidated, there's no longer a payoff for them and they will give up. Your best defense is try not to show fear or anger when a bully confronts you. Remember, too, hidden inside every bully is a scared little child. If you can comfort that child in some way, the bully may even become your friend. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 3

for family members who are bullies if both the bully and the bullied are adults then the bullied one should stand up to the bully at a family function and say in a loud firm voice.
You are a bully. Bullies are cwards. No one here appreciates a coward. Now go away and try to learn how to be braver.
Then duck real fast.
Coworkers who are bullies will always try their bully tactics when the person being bullied is alone or seperated from others. and will often do the bullying in a quiet way. Simply use a loud and fim voice and say. "Bullying people in the work place is not acceptable. If you keep up your bullying then I will have no choice but to make a report."

Standing up to bullys and not allowing them the silent and secret places and ways of bullying will not only shock them but will mean they can no longer operate quietly.

Answer 4

If it is just verbal bullying when ever they say something to you start laughing and tell them Yeah thats a good one. Just laugh and shake your head and walk away. Dont let it show that what they said really bothered you or hurt. They will quickly give up and stop bugging you. Now if it is physical and they are pushing you around or hitting you, if it is a coworker go to your boss and if it is your boss go to the owner or simply to the police since no one should put thier hands on you and if it is a family member , next time you see them get a crazy look on your face and get right up in thier face and in a very low but crazy voice look straight into thier eyes and tell them " if I were you I would be sure to watch my back. You just never know who might be there. " then look around as if you have spotted someone and motion with your head to the pretend person like you are telling them whats up. You have to look convincing tho. Keep eye contact with them and keep a crazy mean look on your face. People only pick on people who they feel are weaker than them and wont fight back. This way you dont have to fight back physically but can sure screw them up mentally. If you are convincing enough the bully will be to busy watching thier back to bother you any more. In fact they probably wont come around you any more if it can be helped.

Answer 5

Try to ignore them if situations warrant. If you think, depending on a particular situation, try and reason it out, one may be successful. If its an elder in the family, one may not have a choice. But with co-workers it works. With bosses, no way, one has to tow the way, remember 'The Boss is always correct', but also try to prove 'The Boss Wrong', should you feel very strongly feel so. It again depends on the situation.

Answer 6

You have to judge each individually. I stood up to a bully once in grade school and she kicked me in the butt a couple of times. I was young then. Now! I would not even let such a thing get started. Stand up for yourself always. Demand respect from the get go. I don't care who it is. Let them know to back the F*** up! You are not the one! You may get knocked down a couple of times but get your butt back up! Survival of the fittest is what my mom instilled in me. Kill or be killed!

Answer 7

Most bullies can sense who and who not to mess with. Stay one step ahead of them and observe their behavior. Bullies and other creeps are very predictable. Be plain spoken and blunt; tell them to step, go on about their business or whatever you choose. Maintain an aura as a person who is not to be messed with. If a bully tries to push your buttons, embarrass the H&** out of them by announcing very loudly exactly what they are doing. They tend to turn cowardly when they are confronted and called out.

Answer 8

The best and most effective way to handle a bully is to find out his or her weakness amid use it against him or her or the best thing to do id to avoid and walk away....... if i gets really bad then just tell some one

Answer 9

Just say no-once a bully finds out you won't knuckle under they usually back off. If it's a boss you might have a problem..be sure to have all your facts in line and keep it professional...or find a new job.

Answer 10

I say you learn to get inside their head. Learn what their weaknesses are and exploit them. Physical wounds will always heal but mental ones never go away. They can always be brought back up a familar sound, smell, sight or even taste. Once you achieve the mental fu(king you put on them, they are all yours and it really doesn't require much energy to be expelled on your part. They do all the work for you, to fu(k them. Ain't it great? They will never mess with you again.

Answer 11

Pitt Bully

Good kick in nabbs

Shot gun

Baseball bat

Tazer gun

Police

Bad breath

No Deoderant