Ive written on here a couple of times and thanks to everyone...i was married almost 5 years...my husband left me and went back to his country...he said "everything will be okay" but ended up divorcing me and not calling me for 5 months. Then...out of the blue he starts emailing me a lot and telling his best friend he made a big mistake. I called him one time and he answered his phone...i called him during the previous 6 month period sometimes one hundred times and he never answered. Anyway...i then changed my number after that bc i realized he was the same and not coming back. We then ended up talking last week...he said that he thinks about me every minute and looks at my pictures and misses our marriage and i am the first and last girl he will ever be with...i said "come back" he said no bc of his family...anway...i ended up giving him my new number...he said he wouldnt call it unless he really needed to...i told him i was going to california with friends...he then started...
2006-07-25 20:15:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
calling me everyday...one day 7 times from his number and a different number...then he sent me a text message "i just wanna know you are okay"...he called again today from an anonymous number and then finally called from his own number and left a message...i dont want to talk to him anymore...i cry and its painful but i still love him and would take him back in a minute...but he wont come back...why is he doing this? what should i do?
2006-07-25 20:18:12 · update #1
Ignore him...he is just playing with your sentiments and probably calls when he is lonely. Could be also that he is trying to harass you and tke his revenge in a mild way by playing a havoc with your emotions. If he ever wants you to come back...he will do so without batting an eyelid...but in my view, he has no such plans. So...please quit him...chnge your number...donot contact him even if you love him. Try and find a compatiable companion...if not for life...just for companionship.All the best!!
2006-07-25 20:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey there's a reason he's your ex husband he chose to leave and he's choosing not to come back..which means u need to change your number again and this time don't call him or have any contact whatsoever.No going back and forth thats not healthy..the relationship is over so deal with it bury it and move on...sounds like he only wants u at his convenience anyways.Find someone else for yourself sweetie u deserve better then that....and go to california with your friends and have fun!!!! U sound like u deserve it....
Don't put up with this kind of behavior from a guy..if he cared about u and really wanted to be with u..he wouldn't have ever left.
2006-07-25 20:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with a boy, not a man. A man makes his own decisions, and would never let his family get in the way of his relationship with the woman he loved. If he chose his family over you, he did you a favor. You might always love him, but that doesn't mean he is good for you. The next time he calls, tell him you respect his decision for choosing his family over you, and move on....There is some wonderful man out there waiting for you, and you're just wasting time on this boy.
2006-07-25 20:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by MegMaher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not mention where he is or if there are children involved in any case weather he came back here or not Id just dump it and move on find someone who wants to talk to only when there not dumped by the girlfriend they found in there own country that is why there was no contact for 6 months he was seeing someone else I know you know this now you have to admit it and find your own life and be happy
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-25 20:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by BRATS MOM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think he is just playing around and fooling you by making call just giving you hope for reconciliation! Don't expect too much!You know him for a long time and try to balance about his personality,if that sounds so weird for you,yes he still loves you and he is trying to secure your feelings that you will not reject him,and it sounds like you still love him!It says,love is sweeter the second time around!If he calls you back, tell him that you want to meet him in person and talk about his courtship over the phone so that it would not give anxiety to you!Or else give him an ultimatum or deadline that if he will not show you in person,you have to end up and give up your hope for a reconciliation and forget about him!And tell him,stop teasing you,instead invite him for a dateto prove his sincerety!Good luck!
2006-07-25 20:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then he started what?.... As far as him contacting you and you contacting him..... Do not do it any more, Just have your number changed again and a private one too this time! Block his Email addy so you do not get emails from him and delete him in your contacts and address book, then you will not be as tempted.... then go to Cali with your friends and have a great time.... what ever you do there Do Not think of him at all.... Spend time on your self and get to know your self again.... Enjoy and pamper your self, then find a Real man!
2006-07-25 20:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would possibly sound corny however that is wherein the believe component is available in. She are not able to make him do something that he does not desire to do. its simply the golf green monster in your aspect. I date a man whom I were dwelling with for two one million/two years and his ex-spouse nonetheless calls and bangs at the door. I realize for a reality he does not speak to her and that i learn the entire textual content messages. I dated a man a whilst again that might no longer leave. I might see him now and again for lunch my present boyfriend had a tough time dealing on the establishing however as time went on i suppose he discovered that I used to be attempted of the interplay additionally. Now four years later I moved to texas so I do not listen from him any longer. Morale of the tale you might have made your emotions identified now permit him make his feeling identified often should you simply keep out of it it'll remedy itself. Besides if he needs to be together with her then you definately must permit or not it's besides.
2016-08-28 17:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, to me it seems as though he is using you at his convenience. He needs to treat you with more respect, don't allow him to take advantage of your feelings for him. I know that with 5 years of marriage comes a lot of attachment, but try to do what's best for yourself. Think of it this way...would you string him along or respond to him in the way that he has responded to you? Honestly, he seems to have an ego problem. He wants to feel important and in control. When he said that he missed you and the marriage and you asked him to come back, he was happy to hear that he was in control and didn't want anything else. I think it's best for you to move on and find a life with someone who really loves and cares about you. Good luck and best wishes!
2006-07-25 20:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Apples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is thinking of you all the time and looks at your picture then he needs to come back..But he doesn't want to so ...You need to move on ..Next time he calls you can either ignor his call o tell him it hurts too much..but don't go back to him because if he truly loved you he wouldn't have left to begin with
2006-07-25 20:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just move on. it is hard though because he was your husband so you obviously want to hear from him / have a special bond with him. the real question is if he is going to change or not. if he isnt willing to sacrifice for you and come back and try and make right what he did then I dont think he is willing to change and I think its best you move on. sorry, this seems like a very hard situation.
2006-07-25 20:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋