I think I have been a good mum to them, spending time with them, providing for all their needs. I'm really surprised that they shut me out of their life.
2006-07-25 20:13:45 · 14 answers · asked by Gerty 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Mine is 14. You think you've got it bad? Mine won't even talk about her period with me. I ask her if she needs more pads, and she ignores me. The joys of being a single dad.
Pretty much all teenage girls don't talk about boys with their parents. Did you talk to your parents about boys? Yeah, but did you tell them everything? It's the combination of the age, and the times. As long as they know they can talk to you if they need to, and, I don't know you, but I'm guessing you've raised them pretty well, they will come to you if it's important. Just anticipate the advice they need at their ages and give it. My daughter and I go for walks on the weekends. We bring a football (I know, I'm raising a tomboy) and toss it back and forth as we walk. We talk about how the week went, for both of us, I don't keep secrets from her, and after I tell her something funny that happened at work, she feels obligated to tell me something about her life. That's how I get her to open up. After catching up for the week, she starts asking me questions. "Dad, how old were you when you got a girlfriend?"
Also, the way the computer room is arranged, I can sneak into the room behind my daughter and read her IMs over her shoulder. That's how I found out one of her friends was smoking. She's not smoking anymore.
My daughter might want to keep secrets, but sometimes I just gotta be the Dad. If she hates me for it, so be it. I'm not here to be her friend, I'm here to be her Dad.
2006-07-25 20:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a 14 year old girl going through a certain stage in my life where I really wont have to go to my mom about every tiny little problem or secret in my life. I really think there comes in a girls life where she wants to feel independant and not want to confide in her mom about everything ESPECIALLY boys. Although i do tell my mom certain things I would not feel comfertable telling her about how the "cute new boy" at school **looked at me that way** in math class.. simply because of the fact that it wouldn't feel comfertable. My mother has been a wonderful mom and i love her more then anything in the world believe me but thats just how we teenage girls are. It cannot be helped and if you decide to push to learn things about your daughtors then they will build an even stronger wall away from you. Just know that this has nothing to do with how well your parenting skills were or how much they love you. It's simply the raging hormones a teenager has. She isn't the little girl who cuddles up to you and asks you if you think Ben has cooties or not. But don't fear. When she comes of age and matures a bit more she wont be embarrassed to talk about these things to you anymore and she will tell you a lot more then she has been telling you now. just be patient and give it time :) i hope i helped
2006-07-25 20:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by eqlar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have not "shut you out of their lives"...
DO you remember when you were a young teenager..
DId you confide in your mum about how cute that boys bum was in the year above you?... Or did you tell her that you kissed Peter Harvey behind the school gym??
I am just starting adulthood and I have a great relationship with my mum however there are things I would never dream of telling her and I think that is okay!
If you have brought up your girls to respect themselves and make choices for themselves as well as respecting others then I dont think you have anything to worry about!
Remember being a teenager and having a bit of mystery is what being a teenager is all about!!
Have more confidence in your girls..
2006-07-25 20:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's something u should have started a while ago, an open trust. How open are u w/ ur girls and what were ur reactions to other things that u didn't approve of. I have an open relationship w/ my daughter and she talks to me about pretty much everything, she knew i f she had told me she needed to talk to me, that i would then know it was serious and that meant keeping an open ind and listening to what she had to say and not interrupt her or get mad and forbid or whatever. forbidding them from things only makes them want to go for it more..sometimes it might be things u don't want to know about, But!....just bite down and and listen and offer what good advice u can give, with love and understanding and friendship....yes, u r a parent first, as long as she realizes that too.
2006-07-25 21:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jules 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by studdard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 16 year old female so I can relate to what your daughters are going through. They're close to you I'm guessing? So therefore they most likely await your approval in what they do. If they're not telling you something either they don't think you';; approve or they just don't care to talk about it. They are probably afraid of what you will think and say. The don't want to let you down. Casually bring up a conversation about it and see what comes out. Don't try to make it like you want them to tell you anything. Eventually, they will tell you.
2006-07-25 21:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie_wit_a_booty_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mum, your girls are just typical teenagers, they are not shutting you out really, they are just becoming women and wanting to grow up. My daughter once told me "Mom I have to learn on my own" which I didnt understand at the time, However letting her go and grow taught her to be the most she could be and I look at it this way... Experience is the best and only teacher..what was good for us may not be good for them .When the time comes they will come to you on "their" terms... wait and be happy when they do ....peace :)
2006-07-25 20:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Kristy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers have a total way of doing that! Im totally thank ful I have a 15 year old son and we talk about everything together! he has made ME blush once or twice! lol He is an awesome kid! But Im sure there r things they keep to themselves! Even my son! lol I think some things they r way too embarrassed to ask their mom- so they ask strangers on Yahoo answers! That way they get their answer and noone knows who they are! ALOT of them are going thru 100% normal things but they feel like they r the only ones! Its not you mom! its just that they r unfortunately growing up! MAN Im like going to shrivel up and die in two years when my son goes to college! sniffle......sniffle.......
2006-07-26 05:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back to when you were their age. Did YOU have confide in your mother? They're teenagers. Teenagers have secrets. I think you have to trust that you have done the best job you can raising them and hope that the values you have tried to impart have stuck. Keep your fingers crossed. B
2006-07-25 20:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol. I will never tell my mom what goes on with me and guys until I feel she is ready for it. just give them time. you can bring things up like 'so do you have your eye on a guy?' or 'how come you dont have a boyfriend yet?' it might get them to open up to you a little. remember, no matter how open you were with them in the past, this is private to them so you cant expect to be told everything.
2006-07-25 20:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋