how should we divide chores ?my hubby thinks it should be split 75-25% because his job is construction labor?

Question

I think it should be 50/50 we have 6 CHILDREN ! and he doesnt want to go 50/50 , just because his job is more physical than mine we both made these kids and i think we both should divide it equally. I have a 7yr.6yr.5yr.4yr.3yr.2yr.old kids and they can only help in the cleaning if it is not to hard ....help!

Answer 1

listen girl, six kids is probaly as hard as his job don't give
into him hes just trying to find away out i say 50/50 all the way!!

Answer 2

It should definitely be 50/50. You are working a full-time job, and then some. Use the words "full-time job" and say that taking care of the kids is "just as hard as your job". If he disagrees, then have him take a weekday (I only say that because of getting kids ready for school in the morning) off from work and take care of the kids. You can spend the day at a spa (because you deserve it). At the end of the day (come home when he normally comes home) and see how he did on the chores or at least keeping the children alive. If he is brave (or idiotic) get him to agree to do 2 days in a row. If he still hasn't changed his mind, then he's an idiot.

Answer 3

whoa dang you need some birth control .. well if your not working out of the house and take care of all those babies , even though that's allot of work . I think If his day is lets say 6am - 5pm then yeah he should only have to do part of it he couldn't possibly do 50 % in lets say 5 hours if y'all go to bed at 10 pm. and sit down for at least an hour cause physical labor is very tiring .
At the very least he should do the man chores , but yes he shouldn't be entitled to just come home and sit all the rest of the day .

Good thing is in a couple years you will be able to divide chores amongst your children .

Answer 4

oh wow with the kids i wish i could be you!! i know imcrazy but i loved being preggo. our kids are 5y 4y and 3y and they made me go on birth control after that for a while or i would have kept going. my husband and I split things 60/40. i do 60 % of the list of chores but he does the harder 40%. like mowing the grass and cutting down trees and building stuff. i take care of the kids and stay home all the time so i do all the cooking and cleaning. He does help if i dont feel good thou. when i was pregnate with our youngest child he did 100% of every thing cause my back went out and i couldnt move with out scraming and crying (childbirth felt better, at least that stopped after 30 mins) anyway i think you two need to sit down together and make a list of all the things that need to be done. then you deside what you can and will do and he can deside what he can and will do and then compromise on the rest. thats what me and my hubby do each week.

Answer 5

I guess it depends on how many hours your husband works. Do this- calculate how many hours that your husband works, and figure out how much he makes per hour. THen, calculate how many hours of work you do a day for the children and home. Then find an amount that you both agree is fair for someone to do the work that you do, if they were not your children. THen you can compare the 'salarys' that you each get, and whoever is 'making more' should get the lighter duty housework. It may turn out that your husband is making more and working more than you, so maybe a 60/40 deal or something that will even it out. Or, you could be the one doing more work and you could get him to pitch in on a little more to even things out. As a mother of only two children, and having many relatives being construction workers, I personally believe that you probably do more work as a full time mother of six children. Good luck




--also, check around on the web and find a chore list generator. i think its www.chorebuster.com this allows you to enter in all the household duties and rate how much each of them need for effort, and then enter the percent you decide on for each household member. Then, each member will recieve a daily email telling them what they are expected to do by the end of the day. For the kids you could just have it sent to your email and print it out for them.

Answer 6

I think your husband needs a little time with his children. Maybe you can plan a little weekend getaway to visit with a family member or an old friend. I guarantee when you return he will be much more appreciative of all that you do when he is at work. Taking care of six children is a full-time job, but don't forget that you are also a wife. It sounds like you can use a little alone time, so you can come back fully refreshed and remind him that you still love and respect him for what he does for you and your children. Men are often more willing to want to make you happy when they feel that they are appreciated for all that they provide for their family. Give a little love and respect, and I guarantee you'll get a little love (or help with kids and house) in return. I'm telling you....weekend getaway!

Answer 7

He needs to realize that>>> your job is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
50/50 is definitely FAIR.

Answer 8

who makes the most money? construction is hard work physically,but taking care of children is mentally and emotionally tire as well. asked him to get a different job. If you want him to help you 50/50..or stop doing his laundry.. tell him you don't have the time..

Answer 9

your husband is right. it should be split 75-25%. see, you're in the construction business as well. giving birth to the babies and raising them is far more difficult than going to work and having a few jokes with his buddies at work. raising children and trying your best to make sure they turn out all right is hard work.

your husband should be advised that marriage is a partnership, and that in this partnership he should do 75% of the chores, while you're tending the kids. women of the world . . . we are the superior race . . . don't let men belittle you.

Answer 10

50 50 and you need birth control