my husband of 10 years is divorcing me and he has already served me and weve only been separated 4 months. I did some bad things to him,it was the first time i ever caused problems for us, and for the past 6 years he has put me through hell and yet i always knew we would be together 4 ever and i forgave him for anything he ever did,over and over and he pulled some shady **** and you name it, he did it, so why one screw up from me and he has no plans to forgive me he is mean and he hates me and i am trippin. how could he not love me all a sudden and our 2 girls one 9 one is 1, they need their mom and dad, we are a family. how can i get him to see that i am sorry and i know i messed up cant we work on it and how can i get him to see the girl he fell in love with and reconsider divorcing me yet?
2006-07-25 19:39:25 · 6 answers · asked by mara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he wants out you have not got much to work with your kids can still have you both just not together
2006-07-25 19:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are not in control of his feelings, and whether or not he took you back and forgave you in the past.You can only control your actions, and it seems you should not have been playing games with your marriage. Sometimes we make bad immature choices, and then have to pay the consequences. The price you have to pay for your mistakes is high, and includes two small children. Asking for his forgiveness may not be enough. You need to offer to get help for yourself and your marriage. If he is willing to seek counseling to talk and work your way of this problem, that's the first step. If not, then you may have to cut your losses and learn from your mistakes and take care of those two children of yours. They deserve to be in a family that values each other, and does not risk a lifetime commitment.I am truly sorry for you and your family. You are not the girl he fell in love with, you are older and more mature. Let him see the new side of you, and maybe just maybe he'll take another look and like what he sees now.Good luck!
2006-07-26 02:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by MegMaher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well without knowing the details of your screw-up its hard to say what to do if there is anything you can do to repair the problem that you have caused? it sounds like the mistake you made is probally of the infidelity persausaion, am I correct? his mistakes are probally minor compaired to that? the bond you broke is very hard to repair if at all possible to repair ? you have went past the point of no return and should not be suprised if he cannot take you back! you gave away the most sacred thing of all the one thing he holds most dear no matter what he does he will always feel the same about "you" and that told him just how much he means to you!
2006-07-26 03:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly sorry for what you did and if you truly forgave him for the things he did, then you will understand and respect that it may take a long time to forgive you for what you did. It doesn't matter what he has done, or that you have forgiven him for everything. It does not grant you the right to do whatever you want.
2006-07-26 02:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Dave S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 2 wrongs dont make a right..whatever reason it was..you shouldnt have done what you did,maybe thinking that he would do the same for you..seems not fair but..depending on what it was,i saytry to work things out and hope that everything gets resolved.
2006-07-26 02:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by jerry v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe, sorry for the events...but he has been looking for an excuse for some time and you have given it to him..he won't be back...relax, thing of a new life and set about to get it. There are plenty of very good men out there who lookd for a good woman. go for it.
2006-07-26 02:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋