Today we talked on the phone for a couple minutes and I said "you sound busy so I'll let you go." He totally switched to nasty and started said "I'll let you know if I'm busy sh*t for brains..." and then he started yelling at me saying the f word a lot and calling me an f-ing moron twice... We have been together almost a year. Sometimes he goes off for no reason. I wasn't trying to be snotty, I really thought he was busy. Then he is saying MY actions are ruining the relationship and yells at/lectures me for twenty minutes just to stay on the phone. I don't get it I love him but I don't know if I'll ever be good enough or do the right things for him.
2006-07-25 19:35:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And today was the day I got my biopsy results and he never asked or mentioned it.
2006-07-25 19:36:19 · update #1
You are good enough for him, but he is not good enough for you. Give him one chance. Say "That really hurts me when you call me ____ or anything like it". If he ever does it again, just leave him and don't look back. It sounds like this happens frequently, so better go ahead and pack your bags. The guy is an emotionally abusing jerk.
2006-07-25 19:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by Dave S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional abuse and verbal abuse are forms of control. It often can lead to physical abuse.
This person needs help and you need to respect yourself a lot more than what he's showing you.
It might be hard but give him an ultimatum if you really love him. "Either the abuse goes or you go", and STICK to it no matter what. Otherwise, you chance spending the rest of your life being treated like garbage. Do you really want that?
Dump him until he proves you're worth more.
2006-07-26 03:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by krazykritik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is called mental abuse. It might just hurt your feeling now but later in life it will effect your self esteem. Get rid of him. If he can't treat you like you are the woman he loves/likes then he's not worth. Verbal abuse usually turns into physical abuse. You can find some one that will treat you good. Go for it.
2006-07-26 02:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by Nonna2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him!!! I know you love him and I know it's harder to do than it is to say, but trust me, I was also in a relationship like that, emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. He obviously has a lot of anger and is tempermental, verbal abuse can easily lead to physical. Please don't get yourself in that situation, and please don't believe him when/if he tells you he can change, rather he can or not the damage is already done. People like that usually turn out to be munipalitive and controlling and everytime something bad happens they WILL make you feel like it's your fault and make you feel like you should be apologizing when you shouldn't be! You deserve respect. Lose him before it gets worse.
2006-07-26 02:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by *Elle Marie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's abusive. If you allow it to continue he'll get worse. Tell him he MUST stop or you'll end the relationship because you deserve better than being treated that way just because he THINKS you've slighted him in some way. And you DO deserve better so mean it when you say it and follow through. If he loves you he'll stop. If he doesn't stop, he doesn't love you.
2006-07-26 02:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, you derserve better. He sounds like a spoiled boy. If he makes you feel like less of a person, please, leave him. He seems to be very self absorbed. And you said biopsy results. I hope you're ok, best wishes to you.
2006-07-26 02:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you still can. He is verbally abusive now and it will become physically abusive before to long. Leave while you still can this is not love. Please get out while you can there are alot of men out there who do not abuse who are kind and loving. Good luck.
2006-07-26 02:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by paramedic9742 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need someone better in your life. He is verbally abusive to you, and when will enough be enough? Leave before it is too late.
2006-07-26 02:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, he was acting differently out of blue. I date a guy and suddenly in few weeks, he turned out to be a monster. Well... he had bi-polar and it explains everything. Your guy may have it too. If he continues to treat you badly... dont answer his calls!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-26 03:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by ஐ♥Mom of 5♥ஐ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
verbal abuse changes into emotional abuse and physical abuse eventually. there is nothing that makes him worth one more minute of your time. get rid of him. good luck sweetie.
2006-07-26 03:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋