My 18 month old is a bully, when someone has what he wants he gets mad and headbutts them. I try to give him another toy or what not and he will throw himself on the ground if i won't let him have it. My 2 year old niece get the worst of it cause she is always trying to take his bottles for her dolls and he get mad at her and got for her. I don't want him to get away with it but he doesn't understand and it is hard cause I also have a 3 month old so I can't always jump up and stop him if i am in the middle of feeding the baby. please help!
2006-07-25 19:31:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
lol i see this all the time while working in a day care.. you have to tell him firmly NO!! and tell him its wrong! then put him in the corner. only for a couple of minutes because they will forget why they are there.. but be firm with this.. dont let him get out of the corner untill the couple of minutes. this will cause him to understand that what he is doing is causing him to get in trouble.. the biggest thing of all is for you to be consistant. good luck. these are the busy years..
oh and congrats on your new baby
2006-07-25 20:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by angel_in_the_sky21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal for his age! It's part of his development so don't fret! It's not a big deal. It may seem to others or to you at the time, but nothing to totally stress about right now. It'll go until he's 2 1/2 or 3 years old, maybe even a little older since he's a boy. They cannot comprehend the meaning of "share". The best way I have found with coping with this is to distract them with something else. Not punish or say no (or you'll be saying no all day long and it will be his number one word).
You can tell him, calling him calmly by his name first, "...will you get _____ for mommy?" or "...will you come give baby kisses?" or "....do you need a drink of water (or food, whatever)". You can distract them with other toys, or to run errands for you, or to another "very interesting" thing/item/place in a different area of the house. Like, point out the window at a passing dog or fire truck or dump truck, or show him a bug, or tell him to draw a spider for you, or whatever.
Good luck!
2006-07-26 00:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 18mo.. unless you react IMMEDIATELY they won't have a clue why they are being punished.. you have to get down to EYE LEVEL.. say NO.. we don't do...(whatever it is he does that you want to stop) in this family, then put him/her ina time out for 2min based on age of child. Then have the child hug the other child if that is it.. or hug you and let them know they are appologizing that way.. and that you all still love eachother. I have 4 kids.. it worked great with mine.. although I know all kids are different. The key is consistnacy and the immediacy of the reaction.
2006-07-25 21:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by walkietalkiethree2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to stop that is to sit with him and take something away over and over again and let him throw his fits. Be sure to tell him that its not nice when he tries to head butt you lol
2006-07-25 19:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE TO START TAKING ACTION WITH THIS SITUATION NOW BEFORE IT GETS OUT OF HAND. YOU CAN PUT HIM INTO TIME OUT BUT YOU HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT WITH IT THIS IS THE ONLY WAY TO MAKE HIM UNDERSTAND THAT WHEN HE DOES THIS HE HAS TO GET TIME OUT. IF YOU ARE FEEDING THE BABY STOP AND PUT HIM IN TIME OUT DONT WAIT UNTIL YOU FINISH FEEDING HIM DO IT RIGHT AWAY SO HE KNOWS WHY HE IS GETTING TIME OUT
2006-07-25 19:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey tell noah to stop head bunting my kara!!! lol so not nice but hey the time out thing worked today he only did it once and then after time out didn't do but most likely we will see this again later... thanks for your help people in protecting my daughter from my sister's son. LOL
2006-07-28 07:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by IcePrincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use a squirt bottle...I know it sounds bad but it works for kids and dogs alike...lol hope you dont think Im a freak.
2006-07-25 19:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly + Eternal Universal Energy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you believe in time out...try it. kids get tired of getting put there once they figure out why they're going. but the key is to tell him in plain terms why he is there everytime you send him.
2006-07-25 19:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by jaijay15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to start putting your foot down and telling him no when he does and remove him from playing until he can be nice
2006-07-25 19:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by txangel_85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋