i am scared that i will get pregnant, cox me and my partner is not aware of this matter. we both need to have sex but we both are scared too. We have heard about condoms and tablets (don’t know any brand/etc names)
But don’t know how to use it or how to buy it. We really want to make sure that this will not harm us and I will not get pregnant
Please give me a very true answer and simple answer
Thanks
2006-07-25 19:29:40 · 25 answers · asked by tin tin 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Isn't it funny how the people say, if you don't know how to use it, your not ready?? There's a first time for everything, I guess they have forgotten. Get a condom, brand name is Lifestyles (Sheer Pleasure) By the way, how old are you tin tin?? Don't let this guy sweet talk you!!
2006-07-25 19:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 2⤋
True and simple? First, you do not "need" to have sex, you want to, and it's pretty clear you are not very well informed about all the things involved with being sexually active. You need to do a little study and planning before jumping into the sack with anyone, and if your partner really cares about you, they will agree. If your partner doesn't care enough about you to help you get the information you need, don't even consider having sex with him. You can have orgasms without having intercourse.
You should also know that NO method of birth control (outside of castration or a hysterectomy) is 100% effective and you and your partner should be clear on rights and responsibilities if a pregnancy should happen. If you aren't comfortable discussing this, again, you aren't ready for sex.
A truly great website with lots of information especially for young people, including drawing of all of your parts and easy to understand explanations of all aspects of sexuality is Scarleteen.com. At the very least, you and hopefully your partner need to read the basics and get some answers.
GIve yourself some time.Sex is better when you are really ready, comfortable and trusting. And do check out the info on http://www.scarleteen.com.
2006-07-26 02:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that if you want to have sex and are afraid for ANY reason.. or aren't sure that is a sign you are NOT ready for it. Sex shouldn't be taken so lightly... not for moral reason..but this could be a life and death decision for you both. You could face bringing a child into this world EVEN if you KNOW how to use condoms.. my fourth child was born that way.. and we were VERY responsible adults... I am grateful NOW that for some unknown reason this one time the condom didn't protect us.. but at the time it was a shock.. I thought I was finished having kids...lol...luckily I have my son who is such a gift!! BUT.. if you aren't prepared for the consequences.. have no way of dealing with a child if the condoms or birth control doesn't work.. stick to just hugging and kissing.. because being a single mom of a baby is soooooo hard! Trust me.. I doubt he would stick around..and even if he does.. you will both end up resenting eachother most likely. I hope you realize there is so much more to life then sex...even when your horny and it doesn't feel like it! Good Luck!
2006-07-26 02:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by walkietalkiethree2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this person, you'll wait until you're BOTH ready.
If your scared, you probably aren't ready to have sex.
If you don't know about birth control, then you aren't old enough.
If you must, then go to the local health department (they should be in the phone book) and they will give you all the information and help you NEED!
However, remember the only sure way to prevent pregnancy is to not have sex. When you do decide to have sex you MUST be ready to accept the responsibility of pregnancy, because birth control is not 100% protection.
2006-07-26 02:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by dbiert 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really "need" to have sex cuz it's not like eating or breathing where you'll really die if you don't do it. But you probably think it's time cuz other people are talking about what they've done and you feel left out.
Before you go anywhere near him you'd better head over to see a doctor at Planned Parenthood or the PUblic Health dept and figure out what you're doing. There aren't take backs on sex. You can get AIDS just as easy as you get pregnant and they're both gonna change yer life forever.
2006-07-26 02:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your doctor about getting on birth control pills or the patch. At my doctor's office, they have a basket of free condoms in the ladies room. Or talk to Planned Parenthood anonymously.
They will be able to point you in the right direction. They're in the phone book.
Definitely use something. If you are scared- wait until you are ready and prepared. It'll make the experience a good one without worries.
Good luck.
2006-07-26 02:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would buy a condom and get on birth control, with this combination it is very hard to become pregnant. Oh and make sure if u use a condom, stick with the lube it provides because certain lotions and Jellies can cause the condom to deteriorate.
2006-07-26 02:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by experienced male 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old are you guys hopefully your old enough to start having sex. well my best answer will be buying condoms but the good brands not 99c condoms cause thell break easily. ok. for a good health just protect yourself with those. not pills because you have to drink them every single day at the same time and trust me its pretty easy to forget one. so i say use the condom is safer. brand name could be trojen...... take care girl and be careful.
2006-07-26 02:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by VICKY V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use condoms. The instructions are on the box. Use a lubricant like KY Jelly. You might bleed a little the first time. Are you sure you want to do this? B
2006-07-26 02:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have sex. you and your partner do not seem ready for it, especially since neither of you knows where to buy condoms or any other type of birth control. if you have sex now, you will regret it. you need to educate yourself on the subject of safe sex and pregnancy. do internet searches on it, there is a wealth of information out there.
also, you do not "need" to have sex. you WANT to have sex, which is completely different. there are other SAFER ways to pleasure yourselves TOGEHTER without having sex. you should look that up too!
2006-07-26 02:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by grave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not "need to have sex". If you are this scared you are not ready for it and you will not enjoy it. You are much better waiting until you are more comfortable with your body and with the idea of sex. Educate yourself and discuss birth control options with your doctor or a sex educator.
2006-07-26 02:34:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋